Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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Sexist or not, many things are gender appropriate, and others are not. As a natal male, I never was exactly what people would see as masculine in many ways. I worked very hard to build a masculine image, but it always seemed to be imperfect in one way or another. When I started practicing my presentation as female, i found that watching women I admired as role models was infinitely helpful. Many things came back to me and i realized that if I didn’t try too hard I began to present rather well. Having my own over the shoulder long hair helps emensely as well as having it professionally styled for a woman. Also little things like when you sit down, always sweep your skirt under you, even when wearing pants or jeans. You give the image that you are really used to wearing skirts or dresses. Just NEVER do
anything that you’ve ever see any guy doing, ever.
All i can say is try to do what you feel is right for yourself, but remember you are a lady and ladies act certain ways which men don t so to be the lady you are or want to be listen to what feels best for you and try your best. These tips are to help all the ladies that really want to pass as a woman so if you want listen to what Lucille has to say she is just trying to help us all be who we really are inside.
You always have such good information. I also love your Sublime Bust.
Have a great and safe day everybody.
i thought it was important to know i agree with the list i’m a full time trans woman and that list helps to convey the right image if you want to be classy . you can do what you want if you don’t care how you present yourself. its not sexist at all its common sense.
Annie
Hi Lucille,
thanx again for all your tips.
I suppose we all know what we do wrong, but the greatest trick is to remember it at rhe right moment.
It’s good to hear it all again,
in the long run we might remember your tips on time.
Repetition makes master.
Greetings from the Netherlands.
Thank you so much for the insights and advice. You have no idea how much it means to me. I am d
Is covering how beautiful I can be. All thanks to you!
Just one little thing that I think that is important.
When wearing a skirt and sitting in a restaurant at a table I try keeping my ankles crossed so that I’m reminded to keep my legs closed.
It really helps me to remember that I’m a lady who is trying to be seen as a lady
I agree. After a lifetime as a male, as simple as it sounds, one of the things I have difficulty with is remembering to keep my legs together. It’s harder than it would seem, ingrained habits die hard, and it’s actually uncomfortable at first. If I don’t cross my ankles I find that after awhile there I am with my legs spread. Crossing my legs lady like also takes more body retraining than it would seem. It’s hard being feminine, but I really appreciate this site for helping.
I’ve been a fab of FS.com for years but this list is ridiculous because most of these are not signs masculine or rude behavior. Women and men fidget when they are anxious or feel boxed in, all the ladies out there shouldn’t be perfect little robots – dress the way you want, walk the way you want, eat and live the way you want.
Hi
As you can see in my pictures I present myself elegant and classy and well dressed and in my opinion this is very important in a transgender woman because we have to work harder to look and pass as female ,and i do not agree with the “be yourself thing ” because we are not genetic women and obviously we have male traits , and i have to practice a lot with make up, dresses mannerisms etc to look like this and the tips and advices of femme secrets of Lucille sorella were very useful to me.
So stop making excuses because become a passable trans woman require a lot of work.
Hi
Dress the way you want? eat the way you want? walk the way you want ? I don’t think so, but if you want to be ridicule in public and do not want to pass as a woman , you can do wherever you want because this a free country.
Yeah I agree. This is very sexist sounding to me. It’s not encouraging.
With names like Alex and Ace one might be excused if they assumed that the concept of “sexist” might be yours and yours alone!
Common sense would predicate that unless you want to appear common don’t follow common rules of feminine etiquette.
A lady is a lady is a lady.
I champion women’s rights at every opportunity. However, there is an undeniable balance between being seen as a plastic, submissive, Barbie doll fem and a butch, tattooed, biker chick.
A little give and take goes a long way to being gracefully feminine and attractive.