“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I want to be a woman. I want to be the best woman I can be. Feminine dress, movement, voice are all important to me. This is who I am on the inside and who I want to be on the outside. It makes me happy.
I do my best. I hope I “pass” but if I don’t I hope I still get a passing smile and a “well done Jennifer.”
Hey Jenifer Hope all is well. And yes girlfren, you do pass. Are you going to be at SCC, unfortunately I can’t make it. But a lot of our friends will.
Hugs
Hi Joanie. What is SCC?
Hi Lucille.
I do agree – the most important thing is being the woman you are inside. In the beginning, I used to be so concerned with passing as a natural woman. But now I am able to stroll around just being myself. Of course I worry about my clothing, what I’m wearing. I guess I love to “blend in”…
Thanks for lots of care and most helpful advices.
Love – Janne Cecilia
Hi Lucille, This is an excellent question. When I go to transgender or gay bars, I am not as concerned, but when I go to regular places, I definitely want to pass as well as possible. Sometimes it is difficult to give up some sexiness for passability however – LOL.
Most interesting. Thanks for the update.
I pass every day as i live 24/7 as a woman with no sergerys whatso ever most of all that I have learnt isits all about being confident in who you are and with some help for you as well to hone my inner gril and help me flower into the beautiful woman I am
Girl you are one passable one
xxx mona
Wow. You look really pretty! Congrats!! How long have you been on hormones? (if you don’t mind me asking)
girl you do pass .repy xx linda
I think you are spot on and I believe the biggest key to passing is being able to blend in. All the girls I know with a few exceptions would rather blend and have fun. The real test of blending is slip on some jeans throw your hair in a ponytail and go shopping. How many women in the mall are dressed to the nines?
Generally, only those young women or older women who are working at various Department stores or other stores that require them to be dressed up for their work. Much older generation women such as myself, will be dressed to go shopping; however not all do so any longer. It was the style and “requirement” back in the day to be dressed up for nearly any occasion; even when you went on a trip by airplane. Oh, let’s not forget hats and gloves back then as well. You were not considered “a real lady” if you did not wear such items.
I’m 100 % with Christy on this one. I find more and more that I get treated as female by the public in general when I’m not dressed to the nines and so obviously ‘read’.
I think attitudes have changed a lot since I was in my teens. I said the self same thing about ‘Jeans and Ponytail to a friend of mine recently.
If you are a trans woman then you ARE a woman, simple. I think with self acceptance that this naturally shines through. Although of course like any woman some times you wan’t to knock em dead and look your best .. Lisa x
I now accept myself for who and what i am. I believe you have to accept yourself if you want others to accept you. If some people cannot acdept me for who i am, then its their problem not mine
I pass 99% of the time. And I owe a lot of thanks to Lucille. She has been a tremendous help.
Gods bless you, Hon.
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