“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Unlike many T-girls, I am not mad at my male self. I just want to be comfortable with the female side of me. Just the idea that I don’t have to ‘pass’ is quite liberating. Frankly, all the stuff you have to do to pass is a bit overwhelming. I initially got your herbal femme program, but when I figured out what all was required, I kinda lost my enthusiasm. Maybe all is not lost. (I am afraid that at 56, I am too old to be fooling around with this.)
Hello LisaAnn, in just brousing I read your blog & thought I would reply in the hope of giving some encouragement. I am 69 & I am out more often than not, in all sorts of places. Yes, when I have been feeling rather unwell, or a loss of confidence, I thought like you, but then I do my make-up & hair, feel great & go out. I have a photo here somewhere, but not time to submit again at the mo. Take care & Best of Luck. Kaye
I have passed 24 seven for a number of years now even though I have not yet had SRS surgery. The strange thing was that I always knew what I was since birth almost, since I was very young anyway. I was always mostly female anyway, so it did not take alot of estrogen to send me completely over. within one years time I was never again called sir even if I was wearing male clothes. for the last two years I have lived and dressed as a female only.I never felt normal trying to present as a man anyway. To be female is entirely natural and normal, for me anyway. Guess I was always a girl. Sharon.
I think that being passable is important but I have mixed feelings about it. Blending in is also important. I think I am naturally very beautiful but I don’t feel good about myself and it seems impossible for me to feel so in this world. I do dress a little better than I use to I am told. I should be passable as a woman as I am not very passable as a man. I am a very eccentric transwoman.
I have been full time for 6 years. Took me 5 of those years to get my look down and be comfortable with myself. It is hard not to draw attention to ones self when you are 6 foot tall.My physical attributes are what they are. I feel like may of us do, i just want to be accepted for Who I AM, Not what I I m or how I choose to Live. There are plenty of us out now and I look forward to making more real time friends. That kind of support will help us all.
I am just starting out and am just under 6’3″ and can totally relate with you.
Hi Lucille
Love You and all Your kind words, hugs and kisses ,
Lucy
You can also divide the short sleeve and bottom of each side, give the nice flowing look on his sleeve. Long skirts can be cut off above the knee and locked for the cooler clothes… Just my 2 cents : )
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All these people talk about blending in.I do not worry about that.Being a women is what I want.Alot of people Are shock to see that I have breast.They look at me funny.This does not bother me.I know deep down inside that I am doing the right thing.I live my life the way that I what.Blending in is not an option.If you have to try so hard to blend in.Them you shouldn’t be a women.Just be yourself and be happy.