Do you feel guilty about crossdressing or being transgender? Sadly, many of “my girls” tell me that they do.
If you feel you have to lie or sneak around to keep your feminine side hidden, I can understand the conflict.
But let’s get one thing straight – there’s nothing wrong with crossdressing or being transgender. Period.
We live in a world with very defined gender roles. Unfortunately, these roles are even more rigid for males.
It’s OK for women to express their masculinity by dressing like tomboys or by acting strong and assertive. But if a guy looks or acts feminine, he’s labeled as weird, weak, or gay.
The underlying message is that it’s OK to be masculine (even if you’re a woman), but femininity is something to be ashamed of.
What the heck!?
Society is slowing changing, but the time to reject these outdated messages is NOW.
I think Iggy Pop said it best:
“I’m not ashamed to dress like a woman because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.”
There’s no shame in changing your gender to match who you are on the inside either!
I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic…
Do you struggle with guilt or is it a non-issue for you? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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This is an update on this same topic from my last comment. I’m no longer feeling guilt. Maybe time heals. Maybe I’ve come to know that there is nothing to feel guilty about. Previously, I looked for positive thoughts about myself to make myself feel better about who I am. Either that helped or I’ve just found contentment through acceptance of myself. Or maybe it’s all of these. Feelings are real and can be debilitating. But don’t dismay, they can be overcome.
It has been very confusing and frustrating for me , but also a blessing. I love expressing that side of me when I can . I there are many addictions and habits that make it even more worse for people, and when we drawn into doing these activities it’s real dark and slippery place to be. I go from wanting to be female to neutral and Masculine, it’s a real roller coaster!
i’ve always been into Crossdressing, it just feel right to me,i never felt comfortable telling my parents cause i’m afraid they would be ashamed of me,but when i finally got the courage to tell my parents,they were actually really chill and supported me,now i am to crossdress in public and not feel ashamed scared of what other people think of me
The feeling is very overpowering, the feeling about being born in the wrong body. The majority of times that’s all I think about. I have been feeling like this since early teens and it has never escaped me. my loved ones don’t know and I feel if they find out it will devastate them.
It may. But if you’re like me, those overpowering feelings can become devastating in your own life. I think one of the best things a person with gender issues can do is to go to a support group meeting. There you’ll find others who understand what your feeling and the problems that you deal with every day without being judged. It doesn’t mean you have to transition or be friends with anyone there. It doesn’t even mean you have to give any input or personal information. It helped me accept that what I was feeling was real and not just entertaining fantasies in my mind. What you then do with that self awareness is up to you. You can’t spare everyone’s feelings while disregarding your own.