Do you feel guilty about crossdressing or being transgender? Sadly, many of “my girls” tell me that they do.
If you feel you have to lie or sneak around to keep your feminine side hidden, I can understand the conflict.
But let’s get one thing straight – there’s nothing wrong with crossdressing or being transgender. Period.
We live in a world with very defined gender roles. Unfortunately, these roles are even more rigid for males.
It’s OK for women to express their masculinity by dressing like tomboys or by acting strong and assertive. But if a guy looks or acts feminine, he’s labeled as weird, weak, or gay.
The underlying message is that it’s OK to be masculine (even if you’re a woman), but femininity is something to be ashamed of.
What the heck!?
Society is slowing changing, but the time to reject these outdated messages is NOW.
I think Iggy Pop said it best:
“I’m not ashamed to dress like a woman because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.”
There’s no shame in changing your gender to match who you are on the inside either!
I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic…
Do you struggle with guilt or is it a non-issue for you? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
I felt guilty and ashamed growing up. I was raised going to a church school, surrounded by people who made me feel awful about myself without them knowing what I was hiding.
I don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong anymore, but my experiences definitely had an impact on me.
God do ik how that feels
We are what people around us make us out to be. It took me a long time to break out of that shell growing up. There was a time growing up when what my mother thought of me was all important and though I think she understood she constantly hounded me, “boys should be boys.” It took a while to get over that but I’m free now. I’m happy you broke that mold Sandra as you look quite natural just the way you are.
long time ago I felt guilty and would throw away eveything but over the years time has changed that feeling. I wear my panties and bras all the time. It just feels right
I’ve feel normal in femine clothing and it feels right. I thought it was just crossdressing now I realise that I tick all the boxes for gender identity disorder and need to do some serious thinking now.
I have been dressing since I was 12 and I am now getting ready to turn 60. No I do not feel guilty about dressing in my feminity style at all. I still look quite passable and am accepted as a woman. I also date men on a regular basis and I must say I totally enjoy myself with them. Guilt? Hell no, no guilt here hon…Veronnica
“Veronnica”…”I LOVE TO WEAR MY MATCHING BRAS and PANTIES”…WHEN I AM WITH “MY MAN” !!!
I agree 100 % vim 63 liove it
I once felt guilty, but not anymore. I now feel that I am going to be the “me” I want to be and thats pretty much it. I feel good about myself and like who I am. The good advice that we get here from Lucille has helped me very much
I havent felt guilty for years. This is who I am. Im transgendered and I love it.
Hi gini you look great as for me I still struggle.My inner self want to out. I hope reading your story will give Petra the confidence to truly live as herself. Love Petra
I used to feel guilty about it, I guess. Once I realized I was a woman, dressing that way is normal and sometimes a joy.
I feel guilty — but my wife just went out and bought me my first sports bras