Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? This is something a lot of crossdressers and transgender women think about.
Is passing really a goal worth pursuing?
I’ve shared my thoughts on whether or not I think passing matters in this blog post. (Spoiler alert: It doesn’t.)
But now, I’m curious to know what YOU think:
Do you care about passing as a woman? Or are you proud to be seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are?
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I pass all the time and I am a trans-lady. I look just like any other older lady. I have been hit on many times at the VA so this tells me I have done a very good job and this is without make-up on.
At 43 years old passing even for us transgender women is all we want…..not being seen as some dude.
Hi Jessica, thanks so much for sharing such beautiful comments and photo. You look beautiful and should have no fear at all of being seen as a dude. Very pretty look that is totally feminine!
Thank you so much
Jessica,
I don’t think you have that problem of being mistaken for a dude! You look totally like a woman, nice skin complexion.
Kristin
Thank you…..noxema and a pumice stone help by ridding face of dead skin.
For most CD’s “passing” is just impossible regardless of how much effort you put in your make-up, hair style (wig), dressing, choice of accessories etc…
Also, thinking all the time “am I passing?” is a source of stress and can ruin our time enfemme.
I came to the conlcusion that a CD can happily live without passing, provided she is credible enough to be considered as a lady, even though a different kind of lady, a lady who incidentally was born as a male.
Personally I don’t think I am passing (even though sometimes it has happeaned), I take a lot of care in my cross dressing, but at the end I don’t care if I am recognised as a trangender, maybe a transexual at the beginning of her path. I don’t need to tell my life when I go shopping or I have a drink in a bar, I’m just happy of being addressed as “madam”.
Ciao
Roberta
PS I’m italian and I’ve been CrossDressing for many years.
English is not my language, I do hope I succeded to make me understood. This subject is really important for me, and I would like to share my thoughts especially with young girls. Getting rid of the “passing mith” can help a lot to enjoy our CrossDressing.
Roberta, I completely agree w/ your comments on passing or not. As wonderful as that would be, I’ll never be able to pass w/ my mustache, beard & male bone structure. I just revel in the joy of wearing the clothing (women’s clothing) that makes me happy. This is how I live full time as a gender non-conforming (GNC) person.
There is no way to happiness; happiness is the Way. – The Buddha
I like your post Roberta. As a native English speaker, I always like to be reassuring when I see someone whose first language is something other than English be a little anxious about their language skills.
Your post was remarkably clear! I could not tell you were not a native English speaker until you revealed it deliberately. I see one or two spelling errors, but that happens even to me; I don’t always type perfectly.
I hope you’ll be confident in your skill in using English in the future. You use the language very well. <3
The vote button doesn’t seem to be working.
I vote Yes I intend to be as passably feminine as possible.
It’s not that I want to pass as a woman… I AM a woman. I just want to make it easier for people to see me that way.
I totally agree with Amanda.
Well said Amanda!
I always try my best. Getting out there often gets easier
I do care DEEPLY about passing as the woman I am. I’m not doing myself any favors by not losing weight so I have to pass as a BBW and it makes me unhappy about myself to not lose the weight to pass moreso. For me, I want to be accepted as a woman completely. What’s the point to go thru all this work nd expense to not pass? I’ve set out to be the woman I thought I married for myself and I hope to find a boyfriend who wants a girl like me. I’m at the age where we don’t get boyfriends very easily though so time is working against me. I really love to look pretty and sexy, but for my age, not as an older woman who wears hotpants only a 20 year old would wear, but as a mature lady with a bit of class and hopefully enough pizazz to get the interest of a man who will love me and I will love him.
You are so damn Cute,Crystal R .
I love your look and your Attitude!
I am sure I am much older than you at 73 in October.
We more mature ladies have to stick together….I agree with all you said, including weight loss!
I may go out dressed up, yet. Been practicing my voice, ( for two weeks now), but anyway the other day I stopped at an convenience store, ( it was very busy at the time), I got in a line, ( there was two lines, very long lines), when it was my turn with my purchases, I’d tryed my new voice. In the other line there a lot of men, four men, ( They where close enoughto hear me), looked and watched me. The clerk, ( a lady), looked at me, first confused, by the time I paid for my purchases she laid her hand on top of mine, looking into each other’s eyes, she smiled and winked at me.
What a feeling.
I enjoy dressing as a woman whenever possible and feel more comrtable in lingerie, nylons, skirt and blouse than male clothing. However, the female look is more difficult with my build and shape. I dress at home and tell myself I look good and actually feel feminine and female, but am unsure that I could pass outside the four walls