Are you someone who doesn’t fit traditional gender norms?
Whether you’re a crossdresser, transgender woman, or embrace a different gender identity, it’s clear that society still has a lot to learn about gender non-conforming people.
Do you agree?
If so, let’s shed some light!
What do you wish people understood about you?
Whether it’s the people closest to you or the world at large, what message would you like to share?
The more voices and perspectives out there, the more others will hopefully begin to understand.
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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My family caught me cross dressing when I was very young 12 years old, they never understood and it was always the elephant in the room, my sister to this day (i’m 49 ) still looks at my eyes to see if I have mascara on or eye liner residue.
For a long time all I ever wanted was to transition but as life went along it became more and more difficult, now I am engaged to a transgender woman and she just found out about me cross dressing, I just knew it was the end but she seems to be doing ok with it so far she says as long as I am happy she is happy but if I start to want to transition she will leave me because she wants a man, now for the first time in my life I can dress as much as I want but as has always been the case that want to transition has come back but for love and her happiness I am going to keep it at bay, am I doing the right thing?
Alluring!
Hi,
What I think I’d like everyone to know is that there is no such thing as normal. If you were to go door to door down any block anywhere in the world, you’d find no two persons the same. So…what’s normal, not you! I guess it’s as old as he without sin throw the first stone. Damn, all these years and people still don’t get it. I suppose I really don’t have a chance of convincing anyone. It’s just this, I don’t peek behind other people’s closed doors, don’t look behind mine!
i enjoy dressing in women clothes. i really wish i had boobs that would look like womens boobs.i dont have any money to get your products,but i wish i had my own pair of feminine boobs to be proud of showing off.
Thank you for all that you do to help make this a better world for all of us. Also thank you for all of the wonderful information you so graciously share with us.
I wish the world had a better understanding that I (we) are mentally stable and that some of us are born with certain abnormalities and that those abnormalities are just a fact of life. Upon until a few years ago, I knew I was different but just didn’t know why or how. When I cross dressed, it just felt right. After several years of therapy in dealing with the cross dress issues as they related to family issues, I found a therapist that was transgender qualified. She had a series of in depth blood tests conducted and found I had an extra female chromosome in my DNA/RNA. With the help of an understanding endocrinologist, they got me started on HRT and I have never felt better. My transition is now complete and I am the female that I was suppose to be born as.
There are still many out there that still ask, “How can this be possible?” My answer to those that will listen and want to understand is, “I am just like you, for this is the way God made me.” “I don’t know why he made me differently other than to show you that we are all different individuals and that is alright.”
For those that don’t want to accept me, about all I can say is, sorry for it is there loss since they don’t want to get to know and see the wonderful person that I am.
Well, by and large I don’t think we understand ourselves well but I don’t think that on the subject of gender it was ever well understood. I don’t understand myself well…I just seem to be drifting toward the feminine. I hardly ever have had a problem with my perceived feminine ways. Perhaps this is because my feminine transition has been so slow and gradual, I don’t know and I still prefer women as intimates which may have spared me a lot of relational problems but I have had other psycho-emotional relational ones not relating to my gender as far as I know. Also I want to be healthy at all costs and remain so. Today I am better accepted than I accept myself!
I wish people would quit addressing me as sir. even when there just trying to be respectful and polite, its offensive. we don’t go thru what we go thru just to be called sir, were not in the navy, im not captn giving an order.
I enjoy dressing as a woman, I don’t want to transition. The worst thing I think is that everyone assumes I am gay and dress to attract men, nothing farther from the truth, I just enjoy the feel of the clothes and the pleasure of the transformation.
Please drop me a note at ccolsonvc@yahoo.com. Would like to get to know you. CC
BTW your gorgeous. I’m jealous.
Thank you for the nice comments, the photo was taken at The Boudoir London, Lucille I think knows Jodie who has opened the Boudoir in LA.
Julie I can’t agree more. Those are my thoughts exactly. I’m not gay and like you I just enjoy the feel and experience.
Great answer. And, yes, you are beautiful. Hugs, CC
Thank you Carolly for your nice comment. A lovely photo of you too.
Im in the same boat. I wrote my feeling on you subject and the sight rejected my response.
I wrote the following some years ago. I am not sure I could say it better now.
I Am Transgender
I am transgender. I didn’t choose to be transgender. It chose me. I don’t hate my body (well…except for the last 20 pounds). I don’t want to change my sex. I don’t dress because it is a sexual thrill. I don’t dress as a prelude to having sex with members of my own gender. I dress as an outward manifestation of who I am inside.
I am a transgender. I am your neighbor and I might be your friend. I mow my yard and rake my leaves. I put my dog in at night so his barking won’t disturb you. I come over with a set of jumper cables when your car won’t start. I talk in funny voices to make your children laugh. I hold the door open for ladies, men, and children. I call the 16 year old girl at Burger King “Ma’am”. I pay my taxes and honor my word.
I am transgender. I don’t judge you for how you look or where you are from. I live by the Golden Rule and treat you like I hope you will treat me. I close my eyes when I pray. I sing songs from the church hymnal, songs by the Beatles, and songs by Johnny Cash with equal fervor (and usually a half note flat).
I am transgender. I am not restrained by society’s ideal of what is masculine and feminine. Much of the softness of femininity remains with me even when I am solely in men’s clothing. I am more patient with others. I can be cooperative rather than competitive. When my child’s dog died, I could hold my son in my arms and give him comfort and then later, take a shovel to dig a grave in the hard, dry summer soil of our backyard. I have tried to combine the best attributes of both man and woman.
I am a transgender. I am your neighbor, your friend, your employer, your client, your teammate and any other person you might know. If I have told what I am, I have entrusted you with a secret which few know. There are many who would do me harm simple because of what I am. I am not ashamed, but still, I must be careful in sharing my secret.
I am a transgender and all I want is to be who I am.