Top 6 Hairstyles for Crossdressers and Transgender Women

Want to look younger, prettier, and more feminine? Try changing your HAIRSTYLE! I can’t think of a faster way to improve your appearance.

The trick is to chose a hairstyle that not only looks great, but flatters your facial features and overall body shape.

Classically beautiful female faces tend to have small features, large eyes, and full lips. That means you need a hairstyle that plays down your nose, brow bone, chin, and jawline – while playing up your eyes and lips. Your hair should also be in proportion with your body.

Here are my top 6 hairstyles for transgender women: (Note: these rules apply whether you wear a wig or style your own natural hair.)

1. Side swept bangs

Bangs are a great option for transgender women since they draw attention to your eyes while hiding a prominent brow ridge. Bangs also have a youthening effect. Straight bangs highlight a large nose and strong facial features, so go for soft, side swept bangs instead.

2. Layers

Layered hairstyles are much more flattering than hair that is all one length. Face framing layers soften your features and add texture and volume to your hair.

3. Soft waves

Soft waves are super sexy and feminine. Waves also add volume to your hair, making thin hair appear fuller. Most transgender women look great with full, wavy hair that balances out strong facial features and a larger body frame.

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Side swept bangs Layers Soft waves


4. Shoulder length hair

Shoulder length hair is the best option for most women, including transgender women. Hair that’s too long drags down your face and looks “old Barbie” after a certain age, while hair that’s too short can look masculine. Shoulder length hair is very feminine and conceals a strong jaw and thick neck.

P.S.: I realize that you may need to keep your hair short. A lot of girls have asked me to recommend short feminine hairstyles, so I promise to talk about this in next week’s blog post!

5. Side parts

Middle parts are an absolute DON’T for most TG women since they make your face look longer and highlight a big nose and chin. Side parts are much softer and can be worn by anybody with any face shape.

6. Highlights

Finally, don’t forget about color! Highlights brighten your face and look softer than a single block of color. There are lots of options besides blonde highlights – women with dark hair look fantastic with light brunette or auburn highlights.

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Shoulder length hair
Side part Highlights


You’re probably sensing a theme here, right? The idea is to think SOFT – soft cuts, soft texture, soft color – to balance masculine features. Remember, just because a hairstyle is cute doesn’t mean it is appropriate for you.

Now let’s look at some DON’Ts:

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Straight bangs
Too long, too blonde! Center part


OK, my dear. What about YOUR hairstyle? Are you happy with it or is it time for a change? I’d love to see your hair, so post your photos and comments below!


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  1. Thank you for the tips, I need to see if I can find the next series of tips for shorter hair.

    Grace, you are so welcomed here and you are such a wonderful person for accepting your son/daughter. I’m just starting with a new hair dresser and came out to her last time. She is great with it and I have my next appointment tomorrow and we will discuss what we can do with it (besides color) to start some shaping and layering, but keeping in mind that I still will remain in the male world, so need something I can switch back and forth with.
    Hey, that might be a great topic for hair styles. Maybe Grace can offer up some suggestions.

  2. Hi
    I’m a hair dresser/ beautician who has a transsexual son. looking at your photo I can see you have a round shaped face so you need to have a slightly longer shoulder length bob and you need to break up your layers so it has more movement, a few high lights close to the shade of your hair colour would help with this (not so sleek) one of the most important things with hair is to get the right colour ie cool or warm. Its really worth having your colours done with a colour consultant, this will help with not only hair but make up and clothes as well. I had mine done a few years ago and its made shopping so much easier! Try to keep your make up as natural as possible and again using the right tones for your skin tone. Watch some tutorials of how to emphasise the shape you your eyes ect by using shading, it’s amazing the results you can achieve just takes some practise.

    This is the first time I’ve ever posted any thing!
    I hope it helps you

    • Hi Grace, thanks for sharing your post. I am curious in knowing what type of wig would you recommend for a male to female transgender like me. I have started transitioning, not yet on my hormones gotta wait a few more months for them ;) But since you are the expert :) I would like to know what you think and what might you recommend for me.

      Thanks girl.


  3. Here’s some pics of me.. I’m a 27 yo mtf, can anyone give me some tips on other hair styles that would look good on me and any tips on helping me be more passable, WOULD BE GREAT.. thanks in advnance..

    • SOFTER! Your makeup is too light and there is no contouring…the end effect is hardness. Go online – to YouTube and look for drag queen tutorials, especially look for one by Manilla Luzon.

      Undergarments…you should be an hourglass. Measure your waist, corseted, and then your hip and breast measurements should be quite a bit bigger…think Marilyn…37x23x36. Your hips and shoulders should be about the same, with a much smaller waist.

  4. I know wigs are an option, but growing my hair out is a slow, long process, made even harder with it growing out in pretty much every direction and curling!
    So I’ve opted for pixie cuts, though I’m still not brave enough to ask for an overtly femme pixie cut (took me months to build up the courage to go to a proper hair salon and ask for what is generally viewed as a femme haircut!)

  5. Hi, Lucile, I am transitioning MtF. My hair, although deemed straight, is very thick and volumous. I’d like to have a very long, straigth and thinner hair, but I’m afraid it is out of question, I can’t grow it much longer. In my case, do you consider the best option to look more feminine is wearing side swept bangs? Bangs would bring more femininity to a non sufficiently long hair? Thank you in advance

  6. What about a chin-length tight spiral perm? Maybe with eyebrow-length bangs? I found a pic of one which is so darling I have my heart set on getting one done just like it.

  7. Hi Lucille,

    Have grown my own hair and it falls naturally like this, so I guess I’m lucky.(Need some additional colour of course, to cover the grey)
    Still have my wigs and will keep them, in case I cut my hair one day for whatever reason or might lose it because of my age.(65)
    In the daytime or when working, I wear a ponytail, and pose as a man.

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