Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Pick a femme name that is not overdone/ sexually provocative, and consistent with image you portray. And certainly not a “nickname” or contraction- type. EX: A mid-age woman that calls herself, i.e. “DAZ”
and looks her age, overly made-up and dresssing unappropriate for her age. Pick a classy-sounding, realistic woman’s name.Ex: Liz, Monica,
Monique,Dawn, Carla,Michelle….And, please do not appear in body language and diction to be a man “aping”(ape-ing) a woman.Toodles!
I would like to have an objective opinion on my image ; could you please help me with yours opinion.
I dare someone to say you’re not a gorgeous woman.
Carla, you look fantastic and I have another “role model” for where I want to go. Looks like you are having a blast too, which is how it should be. Keep on posting, you are a gorgeous woman!
DAZZLING, CARLA! DO YOU WORK OUT WITH FEMALE-DESIGNED EXERCISES? YOUR LEGS AND BODY CONTOUR IS TOTALLY FEMME.
You look amazing! I love your outfit.
I’ve found that buying the occasional item at goodwill ect builds up my wardrobe over time–
There are many thrift(charity) stores in most cities -& my exp has been that they are more friendly & even helpful–I can ask them what looks good on me & they will tell me when I try things on in the stores-
Jane-London ontairo-
Hi Jane Don I might do that if I can ever get to a Goodwill store mostly I’m stuck shopping at Wal-Mart but thanks fo the advice my Mom always shopped there a lot raising 5 kids alone
I am on t blockers for about 6 mnths. Just recently increased to 200mg a day. I am 225 lb’s. Do you have any advice on how to drop 50 lbs?
T blockers will help increase weight so exercise and diet become crucial…I went from 170 lbs to 198lbs
leslie,
I am currently on Estrodoil, 2mg/day. This last June I cut out sugars and simple carbs (bread, pasta, rice, potatoes) and now eat greens, veggies, lean meats/fish and a small amount of fruit. Also take 3 servings of fiber plus walk 30 min/day. I’ve gone from 251 to 164 pounds and am almost at my goal of 158 which is my ideal weight. I did do this with weekly checks with my doctor to check vitals to make sure I was doing it safely. I feel great and am very happy with results so far. Let me know if you want more details. In any event good luck!
Love,
Fran
Hi Lucille honey goodness girlfriend I just want to tell you that I’m very thankful to You for all the help you’ve been to me I might not ever get to be as beautiful as I’d like or have all the beautiful clothes, lingerie, shoes, and bags well all the things any other girl wants but you’ve helped me become more feminine and that makes me feel so much better when I do have the money or force Sis to let me get a few items I need just getting to shave my face and the rest of my more feminine body it’s not going to win any beauty contests I don’t think I wish I could get on HRTs but for now I’ll just have to be satisfied with the way I look which is better than I used to feel thanks to your help Lucille and Valerie too I don’t bug her so much anymore pest that I can be in fact everyone here helps give us strength and courage to get through another day I feel better today slept better last night because I took the opportunity to be myself again maybe I couldn’t be beautiful and do my make-up or put on a beautiful dress or outfit I didn’t even wear any jewelry except my rings which I never take off simply be all I can be at the moment and I feel great about it well here I’ve filled the entire page most likely but I just had to tell you Lucille honey and let You know how much or try at least to express my gratitude to You Lucille I’m very thankful your the Sister I never had that helps me be myself and I Love You Lucille and all my other Girlfriend’s here too Love MJ
Well, here’s a pix of me soaking up some Vitamin D by taking Lucille’s advice on a tan helping one’s look. Also under 10 pounds remaining to get to my ideal weight. Great tips Lucille, appreciate all you do and thanks to all on this wonderful forum.
thank you Lucille for sending lasted inqauiry been while since heard from you:one my don’t buy wrong shoe size rather too small or large an make sure doesn’t hurt your feet or toes even if slightless tightness wanna make sure fit comfortable even after walking or wearing for certain period of time otherwise may be wasting money on shoes not going wear that often same with clothes
I love your Articles and advice so much Lucille. I’m 21 and I sometimes read your Articles for hours. Every other feminization website I’ve ever come across is hyper sexualized. Yours is not and I just love that so much. I feel comfortable on this site and your tips on how to Transform and blend in as a female make me feel so much better when I’m feeling depressed by my gender disphoria. Thank you so much. Please don’t ever stop doing this.
I agree with you Stephanie this is my favorite site Lucille’s is the greatest in my opinion I love it for the same reasons Stephanie I too get depressed by my dysphoria maybe I talk too much lol or not enough anyway thank you for being You Stephanie and telling us how you feel I like the guitar pic too Love MJ
Hi Stephanie your oh so welcome if only the rest of the world could see things from our perspective the world might be a better place at least that is my opinion anyway thank you sweetie for your reply Love MJ
Thank you MJ for the kind words.