So many things go into being a woman… makeup and clothing are just the beginning!
To help you be your best feminine self, here are my top 10 dos and don’ts for your male to female transformation.
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women is a misery-inducing habit.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being the best version of YOU.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave? You don’t need to be a copycat, but incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shaping Wear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so one of the most important items to invest in is great shapewear. This is even more essential than spending money on expensive clothing!
Depending on your natural shape, you may want to invest in the following:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While it’s not essential to have the most perfectly pitched voice, putting some effort into a congruent voice will have a big impact on your image. I recommend EvaF online voice feminization training.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
Dressing appropriately for your age is a style must for every woman.
This is NOT to suggest that you have to look boring or frumpy above a certain age. You simply need to choose pieces that reflect the best version of you without looking too young or too old. See my 3 Rules for Dressing Sexy at Any Age for more on this topic.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your movements are all no-nos. These big mistakes attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
It’s hard to see ourselves objectively. That’s why everybody needs a trusted friend for a second opinion. If you don’t have a girlfriend you trust nearby, find a forum or even post your images in the comments section here for an objective opinion on your image.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported. This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online. Either way, being supported make the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine. Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- How to Walk in Heels: 7 Dos and Don’ts for Crossdressers and Transgender Women
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun! Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
I’ve had great fun in building and maintaining my wardrobe. Items range from the late 50’s/early 60’s to the early 00’s and many points in between. I will admit a thing for silk and have blouses, pants, jackets and suits in the material. For me, mixing vintage items with newer ones is fun. Further, I never try to be ‘in style”, but always “stylish”. The other sort of odd thing I do is that I always wear a hat or sometimes a baseball cap. Wigs are out as I live in the desert, but I find hats to be a workable alternative. It is also distinctive and occasionally I am referred to as The Hat Lady. I resemble that remark!
I don’t do low cut front or back, but I do wear short skirts, skorts and shorts. Got to remember, this IS California! At 72, I agree with Rhett Butler: “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”.
I so love the advice on this website and it’s right to the point and accurate. Kisses to you Lucille! K
never get angry in public like a guy or anywhere else..most women are mild and not overtly aggressive!…also if u can cover up worst things on your body. dont look a lot a guys unless u are interested.date only guys u know that know u are trans!.
I have had extensive surgeries, and have been on HRT for a decade or more. I have changed so much that I have been told not to admit to being a transwoman…I am a woman now!
Yes, you are a beautiful woman
A Very beautiful woman, too, thanks for sharing
Always use the ladies’ loo when you do do-do. But be prepared. Bring your own wipes and tissue. And here’s something you may not think about. Try not to sneeze or cough or grunt in the stall like the man your body. The ceramic tiled acoustics of most loos are like Carnegie Wall when you do.
I have mostly been able to feminize my body noises, like sneezes, coughs, throat clears, even flatulence. But producing a more girly burp (sometimes ya can’t avoid it) still eludes me. Any suggestions?
Yep…let ‘er rip, tater chip.