Embracing your true self as a transgender woman or crossdresser can be challenging to say the least. It’s no surprise that fear often stands in the way of taking the next step!
Have you ever considered what you would do if fear didn’t hold you back?
- Would you plan an exciting femme outing?
- Would you confidently reveal your feminine side to someone significant?
- Would you embrace living as a woman, regardless of naysayers?
We often have a million reasons why we can’t do something – be it our age, family responsibilities, or finances.
But the truth is, it usually boils down to fear.
Are you ready to be fearless? Here are 3 tips to help you conquer your fear so you can confidently express your fabulous female self.
1. Accept Your Fear
What you resist often persists. However, when you accept your fear, it has a peculiar way of losing its grip on you.
Our minds are designed to keep us safe. Facing unknown situations or potential disapproval triggers fear in us by default.
Recognizing fear as a natural biological response can make it easier to accept. Remember, feeling fear doesn’t signify weakness – it just means you’re human!
(Note: I’m not suggesting you ignore fear in situations concerning your physical safety. Always use common sense in these cases.)
2. Replace Your Fear Thoughts
Have you ever worried that something terrible would happen, only to realize it never did? Most fear arises from our thoughts vs. the actual reality of the situation.
You cannot simultaneously think two thoughts. Therefore, if you focus on a positive thought, it becomes impossible to think a negative or fearful one at the same time.
Drowning out your fear thoughts with soothing thoughts can go a long way in helping you deal with your fear. Here are some thoughts to try:
- I deserve this.
- I’ve done harder things before.
- I am stronger than my fear.
3. Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway
There is a book out there called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I highly recommend you read the book, but the title alone is a great motto to live by.
The core idea is simple yet powerful: the only way to conquer a specific fear is to confront it head-on and take action. Once you do it, there’s nothing left to fear!
Have you ever noticed that the more you avoid something, the scarier it becomes? Avoidance doesn’t dispel fear; it merely builds anticipation, which often proves worse than the actual event.
The more you face your fears and take action despite them, the stronger and more confident you become.
Are you ready to be fearless?
So what would YOU do if you had no fear? Are you willing to take one small step in that direction? As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below!
Love,
Lucille
Didn’t some famous dude once say: “We have nothing to fear….. but fear itself.
Just a thought.
Another thought. As a CD, a full makeover for an outing seemed so much more stressful verses transitioning because when transitioning, changes took place gradually. Each step of feminization was planned and having time to acclimate. While cross dressed, I had fears of being outed, concerns of my feminine presentation and overly stressed that I may bump into someone I knew. It felt like people stared, very uncomfortable. Now…after transitioning, I walk around and nobody seems to notice, I don’t get a second look. Like I turned into chopped liver.
Born in an unstable family environment of alcoholism, adultery, violence, abuse and neglect, I’ve always had fears. I’ve pushed those fears way down deep since childhood. Sometimes resurfacing anxiety can be overwhelming. I sought counseling but I found it difficult to talk about. Issues of gender has also been confusing but hormones have seemed to help a lot and I’m still working it all out.
Born in an unstable family environment of alcoholism, adultery, violence, abuse and neglect, I’ve always had fears. I’ve pushed those fears way down deep since childhood. Sometimes resurfacing anxiety can be overwhelming. I sought counseling but I found it difficult to talk about. Issues of gender has also been confusing but hormones have seemed to help a lot and I’m still working it all out.