I’ve observed that many crossdressers and transgender women recognize their gender identity at a young age. For some, it’s an early realization, while for others, it unfolds later in life.
I’m curious about your experience…
When did you first realize you were female or had a feminine side? Was this something you felt as a child, or did it develop over time?
I’d love to hear your story! Feel free share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
from young around five I always played dressup and with dolls,all my friends were and still are girls,parents made me act more like a boy,when I left home at 15,wanted to be more fem but did the male thing to please family,(married two kids)experimented why married,now divorce and came out in jan as more fem,live life as 50/50 as hasn’t told daugthers as yet as they still at school
I didn’t know it till I was dressed for fun by a beautiful lady when I was about eight. Looking at the mirror, I knew am looking at a cute girl and I loved it. In fact I am sure that I am not a “she”, but still I love cross dressing. I am a closet dresser and fantasize about coming out one day.
I knew in my early. Teens I wanted to be female so I could have been a lesbian I will someday try to fulfill. My dream of being a female with your help .I love to dress as a woman and shop for women’s clothing I am in my mid fifties I hope I am not to late thank you
I knew around 5 or 6 years old with 7 sister and one brother I such knew something was wrong, the feeling I had and one of my sister knew of my feelings. She was a big help growing up. Around 16 with I had start wearing girl jeans I have been wearing panties since 14. And now I have been in womens clothes 95 per cent of my life. Thank to my sister and to Lucille.
Well i feel like i knew it all my life … Just didnt knew what was wrong with me.
From the age of 4 i was discomforted with my name and as i can remember from very young age i weared my moms clothes and the most of my friends was girls.
Am 24 now i ve accepted it but still havent the courage to live the way i want!!
Thank you Lucille for your community site !
As far I remember, I knew I was a women inside at the age of 4 years old. I grew up with this deal but, never going further than a transgender until today at 55 years old. in fact i took some hormonal therapy twice in my life, at the age of 16 and 28. The first time i stopped because i was unconvinced it was a good choice for me to go for the surgery. Second time, I was in may way when taking hormones but stopped because I was in relationship with a woman than she became pregnant. So I had to take my responsibility. But now today, I’m ready to go further. Even if I can’t go the surgery because I’m mind powered woman now. I think I did not lost my life because I have i nice child that understand my situation and give me all the courage to be myself in confidence. I’m happy now !
I knew when I was 7, but sometimes you lose the clarity of understanding as you get older. By the time I was 8 or 9 I had learned to hide it and sometimes I even succeeded for a while in hiding it from myself. I even got married and had children, but gradually I realised that was because in my heart of hearts I wanted to be a wife and mother, not a husband and father. It took me a breakdown to understand that. And then I spent a lot of time with that understanding, but not really able to do anything about it because I had children who needed me to look after them first. They are older now, and getting nearer to leaving the nest. At the same time, they understand some of what has gone on for me. I am almost ready to start the journey to becoming the person I knew I was all those years ago.
Claire xx
Great to hear all your experiences. My son is 4, and is convinced he is a she. He gets annoyed when I say “him” or when someone in kindergarden (only grown ups do this) tells him he’s a boy. We are very aware of gender so he dresses in pink, dresses and princesses as much as he like.
He loves tractors as much as princesses and Cars as much as Frozen (almost 😉
He prefer playing with girls and of course his twin brother.
Do you, with your own experience, think this is a phase or time for us to really change the he for she?
I would recommend let them explore and go the natural route and do not push one way or another. But if you are open with them and let them wear the dress or jeans if they want I know it will be better for them to figure out who they are. If or when the time comes to change then if you have that open relationship they will let you know. But be encouraging and if they want you to refer to them in a feminine reference than I would highly recommend doing so. I wish people in my life would have been more understanding and encouraging. Understanding who you are is a huge key to happiness. I wish you all the best and same with your child.
Jo