Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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the first time I went out was when I was 14 . my parents were gone for weekend and brother was at a party . it was near midnight when I got the nerve . I was fully dressed with makeup heals dress and I had a wig I bought and purse .I did have backup clothes in it to .I turned off all lights around home and went out . I was walking for about an hour when some women walk by and said hi but that is all . then I went to the market bought some coca cola then left . I did that for about another hour . then when I went home I was walking in and there stood my mother when she seen me she went redder then I have ever seen her go . she ripped the clothes off me and wig and put them in a bag and put them in her car , and told me to take the makeup off . then I got the wiping of my life and was told if I ever did that again I would be disowned . she yelled a few bad words and sent me to bed . I never did it again unless I knew they were going to be gone longer .I did like it up until the end . it took me a long time to start to recover from that .
Oh my, that’s just NOT the reaction one hopes for, is it! Glad to hear it did not break you!
it didn’t but it made me to cautious to go out with others around. thank you for the reply
I was 26 YO and my wife helped me with all the details i.e. hair, make-up and clothes. I was still on active duty in the Navy so I could not go out anywhere near our home, so we went to Las Vegas. I was scared to death I’d be discovered, but walking from the parking lot to the casino a couple of guys drove by and honked at us. This was a huge confidence bust and I started to relax. The first place we went was to the buffet and when I had to ask the chef to give me a slice of meat and he looked right into my eyes and added a little smile, I felt great. Later on our way back to the motel another man drove up next to us and honked while motioning for me to roll down the window. I did not encourage him to follow us, nor did I roll down the window. He just smiled and drove away. I was so exhilarated by the experience that I started dressing and wearing female under things every chance I got. The fact that I was wearing panties and panty hose under my uniform felt great and made me long for more opportunities to dress the way I felt on the inside. Unfortunately, I have not been able to dress as often as I wanted over the years but I continue to wear under things everyday and hope to go full time very soon.
My first time out enfemme my female friends dressed me in the photo you see, the formal dress waqs fun to wear but the heels killed my feet, we went to a costume party and people actually thought I was a girl
That dress is soooo cute! 🙂
Since I am androgyne (femandro) rather than TS I have only dressed fully as woman together with friends I know as a “just for fun” thing. When it comes to public I have taken continous small steps and it’s impossible to say “first” about something special. I started with letting my hair grow, wore gradually more and more feminine men’s wear and after that less and less masculine women’s clothing, and so on, in small steps. Got a handbag which was said to be male model but since almost no men uses handbags was that a step forward anyway. Added pretty gender neutral shoes with hidden heel, continued with more girlish shoes, added some jewelry, a girlier handbag, and have continued with those small steps against more and more feminine details – and I am feeling better and better for every little step. The latest things I have done is wearing weakly colored nailpolish on my long nails and recently I started an attempt to grow an A cup to begin with. I don’t know where this will end, but my own guess is at 60-70 per cent female or something like that. Only God knows! 😉
Hi there,
It was a few days back when I passed as a girl out. It was almost a midnight. And I went to a beach nearby my place. Had gone to a bar along the beach. I purposely sat on the chair where nobody was. People could see me but not so clear as I was scared of getting caught and thus wanted to stay low profile.
I was wearing tight blue jeans which was too long and was hiding my high heels. Though I was not much good with walking with high heels and had fallen twice or thrice on ground on my way bar I had got my feel hurt it was a huge fun. I was wearing white CAMI inside a blue denim shirt like top. I was wearing three padded bras one above the other to create and also hide my virtual b**bs. After couple of few drinks I needed to go to washroom. Trust me on this it took a lot of courage to do so. My first victory was waitress who served me a drink saw me and smiled at me and said ” what can I get for you “ma’am”. :-). yayy….. When I headed to washroom I first turned towards gents washroom…. oooooops sorry. As I entered in ladies washroom I saw myself in the mirror as a completly surprised and a happiest hot chick. When I came out and leading towards my table I noticed few men staring at my waving my buttock. And it ran a chill of joy in my spine. Later one guy among them passed a chit to me with his name and number written on it. Below that he wrote ” Would love to BANG you all night”:-) Mwahhahahahahaha.
I first wore my skort out and stopped to gasoline at a very busy gas station. I felt great and even had people behind me waiting to get gas. I could tell they were surprised but it wore off and they even said hi. I wear sports bras everyday as well as panties and women’s shorts to my exercise facility. I wish I could wear a skort to work but that might be going too far at this point. At least I get away with girl’s shorts, bras and panties and some girls sport tops. I would love to wear skirts and skorts everyday.
Lucille, I have been going out since I was 14 yrs. old. The first time I went out was at night walking down the avenue window shopping. Like the song from the 60’s Georgee girl by the Seeker’s. A line in the song goes like this,”always window shopping,but never stopping to buy!” Anyway, I did that for years! When I was around twenty-five, I started going out to clubs and also shopping. Here is a photo of a young Diana.
My first time out in public was while at an organised ‘girls’ weekend in a Blackpool (UK) hotel. I went with four other girls by taxi in to the town centre, up the famous Blackpool Tower (for US readers it’s like a small Paris Eiffel tower) and to the ballroom (where the UK show ‘Strictly Ballroom’ is filmed). Thought about dancing with one of the other girls but didn’t in case I fell in my heels!. Tried to dress down so as not to stand out.
Not counting Halloween and CD events. My first time out in public was a weekend in Denver. I spent 3 days as Nikki, went shopping, dinner and stayed at a motel. Even did an IHOP for breakfast on Saturday & Sunday. I did have the support of a GG friend and another more experienced friend.
Since then I’ve done a lot more going out closer to home.