Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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My first time out en femme was at a dive bar on karaoke night. Fairly positive reactions from the girls, but within an hour I was dragged out the door and pummeled by their boyfriends. Went back to the bar a couple weeks later in drab and a manager told me I was persona non grata. Took me a while to get over that.
Was really nervous. Still am..guess I always will be.
First time went to a bar with a girl friend of mine who was the one who helped me become “”Jenna.” We drove to a bar that was in the neighboring state and I was so nervous especially because I had to show the bouncer my ID. I just glanced at him and did this smile like, “yup…..that’s me.” My friend and I met up with a bunch of her friends who all knew and was cool about it. We all danced and what not. I got a few stares..I felt like a few guys knew, but delt with it and tried my best to enjoy the rest of my night. Then towards the end of the night when I found out it was time to go, I basically ran out the door! Haha I wore heels with blue jeans and nice silky black top with a few jewelry accessories.
Went through a period where i didnt dress for a bout a year. When i picked it back up, the secind time i went to Wal-Mart and did a lap around the store and walked out back to my car.
Third time, I did the same except I went to the women’s bathroom and sat on the toilet just sitting there for like 5 min and waited until no one was in the bathroom. I then left the stall and snapped a few selfies in the bathroom mirror and left.
Where should I go next?
My first time out in public was to the grocery store. I was already dressed in jeans and top (of course daytime makeup and a wig) and making supper. I needed a few more items for my meal.
I grabbed my purse and got in my car and headed to the supermarket. No unusual stares or comments. the check out boy even carried my bags to my car.
Ashli
The first time I went out enfemme was going to Esprit confrence in Port Angels Wa. Now every day.
I am almost always dressed around the house and I had been out in the car and a few places in public before, but not really in close contact with people. At the time, I had just started an affair with a nice guy who lives about an hour away in Portland, Oregon. He usually came to my house to meet up, but this time I was going to meet him at his place and he was going to take me out in Portland and let me ‘test” my confidence a little more.
I decided that I would get dressed first, before leaving, and take no male clothing with me so that I couldn’t “chicken out” and had to stay en femme the whole weekend regardless, no matter what, until I got home. I jumped into the shower and shaved what stubble there was from my body and did my hair in a short feminine style and then sat down to do my makeup. I glued on my silicone breast forms and slipped into a new open crotch, sheer from toe to neck, coffee colored nylon body stockings with long sleeves. I decided on not wearing a bra because the nylons already gave me some breast support. I stepped into a pair of shiny black stretch vinyl bikini panties, over my nylons like a naughty girl, and my shiny black knee boots. I finished the outfit with my matching vinyl elbow gloves and long sleeve shiny black vinyl mini dress. I left the front zip down at the neck just enough for a glimpse of my sexy sheer lingerie. I felt so kinky, like some fetish Hooker, and was already getting butterflies in my tummy.
He lived in a second-floor condominium and told me to park in the guest parking lot. I had to go up the stairs and to the far end of the landing, past several apartments, to get to his door. I passed a teen girl on the stairs and a male/female couple on the landing who were leaving an apartment. You would have thought that, because of my outfit, there would have been some sort of attention but they all passed as if there was nothing out of the ordinary. I was so nervous, yet excited, that I really didn’t care that there was no acknowledgment! Did they really think that I was a girl? How exciting! I wonder if they thought that I was a prostitute going to visit someone!
When he answered the door I was so excited that we didn’t even make it to the bedroom until later! We never did make it out on the town that weekend. I have been out a couple of time a year since then but that first real time, little as there was to it, and was very exciting and something that will always stick in my mind!
Riki
Just last night my mistress told me to go up n get dressed in the outfit she had laid out on the bed. My nails had just been done and I hesitated just long enought to hear “Or else” Knowing I was ready and scared I found a pair of tight jeans bra panties breast forms sandles wig n make up. As I dressed my mind raced to the fact That others would see me like this.Mistress applied my wig n makeup pointed to the door and off we went to a not to near by park.My confidence got a boost as Mistress guided me along the walk. This is of couse the life style we agreed on I stoodup straight n proud n enjoyed our walk around n through the park laughing posing for pics etc. I asked mistress what if we get hit on since there different groups of people at tables. She smiled saying I will take care of that if it happens. Smilling back I thought to myself I bet you will. We are going out again next weekend skirt n heels this time I feel so alive n a bit slutty
I shop at a boutique a friend of mine runs. She would have me come in after hours to shop around. One night she put together as few outfits for me to try. When I came out in a skirt that fell just below the knee and a loose fitting blouse she said “that’s perfect!” She had me sit down and she pulled out her make up bag. I asked her what she was doing. She told me I was going out as “Lisa” tonight. Her store is in a strip mall all the other stores were closed for the night. After she was for with my hair and makeup I stepped out for the first time. We walked up and down the strip mall a few times and she told me I was ready and get in her car. She took me in a coffee shop. I was to scared to order for myself so she did all the talking. We sat there for about a half hour in that time we got a few looks but no one seemed to notice I was a guy or they just didn’t care. Since then we have done it a few more times
I had gone out a few times with my GF. She enjoys my dressing and helps me with it. Up until last week all my times going out were late night. A few weeks ago she came home from a shopping trip and was all excited. She had bought is matching red white and blue bikini swim suits that were thong bottoms. We changed into them and spent a few hours hanging around the pool. A few days later we are out by the pool and her best friend just walked out of the house. She is a good friend and it wasn’t at all unusual for her just to walk in without knocking but she always calls to let us know she was coming over. She had no idea that I am a CD so I was really embarrassed at first but she didn’t hesitate to tell me to relax and she like how I looked. She spent a few hours visiting as my GF explained to her about my dressing. She even had me change a few times to see me in different types of cloths..
Doing that highly built up my self confidence. Last Tuesday I took my wife to work because I needed to take her car in for a recall item. The repair took less that 30 minutes so I headed home knowing I was going to dress. I had a great time and as the day went on I began to get a crazy urge to get all dressed for when I picked her up from work.
I spent a few hours showering and shaving. Got my makeup perfect. Chose my long red haired wig. Chose matching bra and panties and put in my fake tits with hard nipples. My bra and panties are black lace so I chose a white silk blouse and a pair of denim very short shorts. The bra and tits showed thru the blouse. I put on a pair of wedge sandles. When I arrived at her work I parked right in front of the doors most the elployees leave from. She works the ER at a major hospital. I had butterflies the size of eagles but was so excited.
She was about 3 steps outside the door when she spotted me and she got a huge smile and almost ran to the car. She got in and gave me a big kiss. She told me how sexy I looked and she was proud of me for coming out like that. I have to say that the icing on the cake was when she told me how seeing me like that made her instantly wet
We drove to the river and walked around hand in hand and kissing as others passed. It was an awesome time