Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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I had been dressing since I was 5 years old. But the first time I got up enough to go out fully dressed as Kate I was in my 60’s. I got dressed in a body hugging red dress and had a black lace bra and matching panties. Also some black nylons. Plus I had some tan zip up boots with about 2 inch heels. I took most of the morning taking a shower and making sure I had no hair on me where I was not suppose to have it. It was winter around here and I had my long puffy coat to kind of cover up a lot. So when I was done getting ready I drove over to a mall that was nearby. All the time I was driving over to the mall I had to keep telling myself that this is who I truly was a woman called Kate. It gave me just enough courage when I got to that mall to exit my truck and start towards the doors. I went through the doors and stopped to adjust my purse and too look and see if anyone was looking at me. To my relief and suprise no one was. So this mall is very large it has two stories worth of stores and I first went to the to floor and started to walk around and stop and check out some of the stores. I could see that no one was staring at me. So I walked to both ends of the mall enjoying hearing the clicking of my heel boots clicking off the floor. The feelings that started to fill me up were such a high I couldn’t believe it Well I finally left and got home and just sat there in my chair and enjoyed all of the feelings and knowing that I could get up enough courage to do this some more until I can finally come out all the way and finally live as my true self as Kate as a woman! Thanks Kate
So inspiring and really amazing that you did go out in public, I’ve been dressing for as long as I can remember now I’m 49 and still never been in public as Bobbi buBBles.
Note: The names in this story have been changed for their privacy.
So I did something amazing on Saturday. I actually went out of the house as Michelle. I wanted to walk into Torrid dressed as Michelle!
So I put on a bra with my new full breast forms, black tank with a blouse and put on some of my shorts. And I wore my favourite ankle boots. It was too warm to wear jeans and I thought that the shorts went well with the outfit.
So I drove over to the mall, put on my sunglasses and a mask (Covid did bring something good that people still walk around in masks) and walked into the mall fully dressed! I walked around a little bit. I really like walking in these boots with these heels. I am getting used to them. Then I walked into the Torrid store.
I was greeted by Kathy. I have dealt with Kathy before. She was the one that helped me with my Bra Fitting and she gave me a huge smile and said, “Hello Michelle! Don’t you look amazing!” I told her that this was the first time walking in the mall like this. She smiled and gave me a high five! I just gave her a big smile. She introduced me to the other girl working with her, Kimmy and she was adorable too. Kathy asked me what am I looking for today. We walked around the store as she picked out outfit after outfit. She asked “Yes or No”. I mostly said Yes but I told her that I will not wear red. Red does not work for me.
I could keep on going and explain everything but to make a long story short, I tried on probably 10 different tops, 1 set of jeans (that I love and they look good on me too), 1 pair of shorts (that I didn’t like as much) and a couple of dresses.
At one point in the clothes fitting, Kimmy asked me what was my pronoun (she/her, they, them). I said When I am dressed up like this, I like she and I like to go by Michelle. She smiled and said, “Very nice to meet you Michelle.” She was so adorable and kind. I wanted to give her a hug so badly but I didn’t think it would be appropriate. Would it be? I really don’t know.
Kimmy came up to me and asked, “Michelle, what size bra are you?” I replied 40C. She stepped away and then gave me a new bra to try on. I fell in love with this bra! OMG so comfortable. After having it on for about a 1/2 hour or so, I noticed that I was sweating lots. Even though the store was air conditioned, I was still very hot. I told both of them that I was sweating like crazy, did they want me to take off the bra? They said, “Hell no! If you like it, keep it on. We will deal with it later.”
So after trying on each piece, I would walk out of the dressing room and walk in front of the mirror. I would get an honest opinion from BOTH ladies. I loved Kimmy’s reaction to some of the outfits. Some would be a huge smile and a “I like that!” and the others would be this deep frown with her finger in the air waving back and forth, No No No.
At one point another customer was trying on clothes. Since I was so comfortable, it sort of bothered me a bit but when she started to give her opinion, I felt even more relaxed. She would say things like, “Wow. That looks good. Don’t you girls agree!” and “Oh no. Not for you.” I even got a “I wish I could wear something like that.” So we all turned to her and said, “Why try it on!” Kimmy jumped at this and quickly went to get the top in the customer’s size. She tried it on and we all said that it really looked good on her. I said, “See. you can wear something like that.” Everyone giggled and I even got a HUGE smile from Kimmy and the customer.
So overall, it really was an amazing experience! Once you get comfortable, it can really be a fun experience.
Thank you Kathy and Kimmy! Thank you Torrid!
Great experience!! Thanks for sharing! “Wished I could do something like that!”…Maybe I can??? LOL!!
The first time I went out in public I drove 2.5 hours to meet someone I met on line and had long discussions with. He was quite the gentleman when I arrived. I since have been going out in public at least once a week and I am looking to going full time in femme.
The first time I went out in public I drove 2.5 hours to meet someone I met on line and had long discussions with. He was quite the gentleman when I arrived. I since have been going out in public at least once a week and I am looking to going full time in femme.
The day I realized that I don’t go out as a woman, but as ME, everything became much easier.
I first ventured out en femme a few years ago. I remember being so nervous! Over time I went from occasional trips walking round the block to visiting shops and taking public transport building up my confidence.
Recently I started a new job and decided to try and dress more en femme)in gender fluid manner, as well as wearing subtle makeup. I’ve been doing this for a couple of months now and basically wear female clothing more than male clothing, which has been great!
Still mainly smart clothing /relatively androgynous with use of layering but much more tailored with feminine silhouette as well as more feminine hairstyle/wearing headbands.
I’ve come to realise mostly people don’t care/notice and when they do it’s more than often down to clothing being more visually striking
I’ve even have been “misgendered” when out in male mode, which has been an amazing boost to confidence!
Recently I have been going through some of the books and ran across a note that a friend of mine wrote me. It said that I was going to Daicells in downtown Portland. I always wanted to go there but as dressed as Samatha and going along I did not feel safe. I talk to several of the about me becoming Samatha but that was usually about it. Rick, Dawn, Patty, and myself went to Daicells on a Monday night and it was almost pack. I was jealous of the girls makeup! I felt like they looked better than me! After a few drinks and a snack we went to a country and western bar and they takled me in to dancing with one of the customers that regularly came in the bar. I remember that I was very nervous and elated at the same time. As time went on we had more outings and I was a geting more relaxed as being Samatha. But after that night I never want to go back to being a man. I learned a lot that night as well.
the first time in public was scary and fun at the same time. l was in a white and green strapless dress and l went for a walk in a local park in the late afternoon. l would not have gone far if someone had been near me when l drove up and started my walk, no nobody was near me . as l walked l felt better and started to enjoy my walk. l did pass a number of people but as l could not get back to the car l just kept walking and did not care what they were thinking. the walk lasted about 20min and l enjoyed it. it still a worry when l go out in public and do not do it much but it is getting better the more l do it ut as none of my family or friends know about my cross dressing l do not go out as much as l would like. maybe one day l will become a full time women that is my dream. Thank you for being here for me and other like me. TIFFINY