Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
To learn more about choosing the right panties, check out my post on How to Choose the Perfect Panty (Transgender / Crossdressing Panties Style Guide).
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
Love,
Lucille
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I would definitely say match your bra and panties. I feel so good to be in matching bra and panties set’s. These rules seem to cover it all.
For me it’s all about the feel against my skin. I’ve just acquired some Uniqlo bamboo fiber bra tops (camisole with built in bra) and bamboo fiber feels sublime against the skin. These are really “practical” everyday, low cost, nonsexy lingerie, but I’m loving just feeling it under my clothes. I’ve got a few tops and dresses that otherwise would be too lowcut or seethrough me to be comfortable, but a bamboo finger camisole goes with them so well. Bamboo fiber camisole, silk stockings with a tea-dress with ruffles. Divine!
Hi Lucille I love wearing full back panties nylon or satin I love my satin high cut panties I wear Katie&Laura fancy satin panties I love them they are so pretty and I feel like such a girl I have many nightgowns all very pretty and feminine I have allways wanted to wear a matching bra and panty set with stockings.I would love to have a woman like your self hold my hand and take me in for a bra fitting
Respect also the cleaning for your lingerie, it doesn’t like the dryer
I love this article it’s very helpful cause I’m starting to buy panties and trying on bras.
“Christopher”…Just keep being the “Girl” that you want to be !!!
Heres another one of me as chrissy
Thanks this one of the photos I took as chrissy
Article was great!! For someone just starting down the path it is both exciting and encouraging to read your article and read the comments of others. I am looking forward to be able to wear bras and panties that fit and make me fell sexy!!
I love lingerie! I always buy my lingerie en femme when out shopping. I never buy on-line. I want to make sure it fits before I purchase anything. Here I am with a baby doll I bought at Victoria Secrets! The sales ladies are always very nice and accommodating. What do you think for a 72 year old? Anyhow, have fun!
When I decided to let Danika out, I didn’t really have any idea what she would need. There was sooooooo much that we loved because it was sexy and I had to decide what would be comfortable. There was a lot of trial and error. However, over time (and a Victoria’s Secret credit card) all the pieces started coming together. As new clothing came in, old clothing went out. The lingerie was the easy part but the outer wear was a bit more difficult. I would say just take your time and when you try something new, get someone’s opinion. That will help in knowing what direction to take