Of all the topics I cover on this blog, lingerie is definitely the most popular. And no wonder! There’s nothing like indulging your female self in a lacy bra or silk nightie.
While half the fun of lingerie is expressing your own personal style, there are certain “rules” worth keeping in mind…
So, are you following these rules? Find out by reviewing my top 7 MTF lingerie rules for crossdressers and transgender women.
Rule #1: Know Thy Bra Size
Most women wear the wrong bra size, so there’s a good chance that you might be too. A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and creates unattractive bumps and bulges. No girl needs that!
Your best option is to be professionally fitted for your bra size. (Don’t be afraid to go in for a fitting. Many lingerie shops are transgender-friendly and welcome your business.)
To learn how to measure your own bra size, check out my article on How to Find Your MTF Bra Size (Transgender / Crossdressing Tips).
Rule #2: Avoid Visible Panty Lines
A bra strap peeking out of your top can be sexy. Visible panty lines? Not so much. Here are 5 ways to avoid VPL (visible panty lines):
- Make sure your panties fit right. If they’re too tight, they’ll dig in and create bulges. Too loose and they’ll wrinkle and bunch up.
- Try seamless underwear for a smoother look. Seamless panties are made without seams or trimmings that can show through clothes.
- Wear a thong. No visible panty lines there!
- Go for boyshorts. Boyshorts might not sound girly, but they’re actually really cute and don’t create panty lines.
- Avoid cotton panties. Cotton undies have a tendency to bunch up. Go for microfiber panties instead.
To learn more about choosing the right panties, check out my post on How to Choose the Perfect Panty (Transgender / Crossdressing Panties Style Guide).
Rule #3: Coordinate Your Bra And Panties
While the rule about matching your shoes and bag is outdated, your bra and panties should look like a set.
Mismatched lingerie looks sloppy and even if nobody sees it but you, why not look your best? The colors don’t have to be an exact match, but they should at least coordinate.
Rule #4: Choose High Quality Fabrics
Since lingerie is worn next to your body, fabric makes all the difference in the world. High quality fabrics feel great, lay more smoothly, and last longer.
Cheap fabrics wear out quickly and can even trap odors. (Eww!) Look for lingerie constructed with quality fabrics like jersey, silk, rayon, and cotton.
Rule #5: Know When To Say Goodbye
Do you own any ratty panties or stretched out bras? If so, toss them immediately.
It’s hard to feel sexy and feminine in worn out lingerie, so get rid of anything that’s lost its luster. Most lingerie items need to be replaced every 18 months or so.
Rule #6: Own More Than One Bra
To extend your bra’s life span, let your bra rest a day between wearings to keep the elastic from stretching out. If you only own one bra, that means it’s time to shop for another one (or 10!).
Rule #7: Buy Lingerie That Fits Your Lifestyle
Do you have a bunch of sexy underthings, yet nothing practical to wear under your clothes? Or maybe you lack certain feminizing shapewear pieces.
Lingerie should fit your lifestyle, so take stock. Are you missing anything from these categories?
- Basics – T-shirt bra, seamless panties, pantyhose, etc.
- Shapewear – Control cami, girdle, padded panties, pocketed bra for breast forms, etc.
- Sleepwear – Nightgown, robe, sleep bra, etc.
- Sexy – Lace bra and panties, body suit, garter, etc.
- Activewear – Sports bra, moisture wicking panties, etc.
Let’s talk lingerie!
What do you think of these lingerie rules? Do you agree with them? Do you have any lingerie rules of your own?
Please share in the comments below! And for bonus points, don’t forget to upload a photo of your favorite (PG) lingerie look.
Love,
Lucille
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I dont believe your breast enhancer will work on me.I tried other breast enhancers and they did not work.I think you should give me a free bottle of your breastenhancer to let me see if i can get feminine boobs like i want.
I love wearing garter-belt, stockings, stiletto heels, bra, thong panties and anything satin, mmm!
Pocket Bras from Amazon, 40DD, FEEL &LOOK AMAZING. Panties all from Secrets in Lace in Richmond VA. Stockings from same place, fabulous feel. ALSO GIO STOCKINGS. ..Amazon.Feeling sexy, & dressing functionally is the key. No one but you know how sexy YOU ARE UNDERNEATH.
I love panties that pull up into my cheeks when I move and I have to try and fix them in a group of people. I love wearing a bra with silicone inserts that are heavy and pounce when ever I move
I love buying panties, I.E. 3 for 30, also : Bali, Valmont ( size 6) also Vanity Fair makes nice hot sexy panties. Oh my goodness how nice they feel, wear ( sometimes 12+) hours, & I use a lingerie bag for my camisoles, bras & panties. I use “Woolite” for my “delicates. As for Bras & when I need to replace my bras: Macy’s, Her Room, Venus or North Style works. Subscribe on line, buy online and lastly look for sales on lingerie. These catalogs come to you. Lucille I am so grateful to you, your staff & I love all my Male /FemaleTransgendered ladies. If you can rent a mailbox from UPS store ( legal address) so that you can receive catalogs, & packages. Just a thought: Check it out. From a Tranny who loves lingerie. PS just ordered panties & leather leggings from Her Room: I’m a Loyal customer, & i have never been questioned, or ridiculed. Peace…. Robin Jennifer
I just purchased 4 new bras. I now have 8. I love wearing my bras and try to ensure that they are concealed under my male clothes, not easy to do. I also have 14 pairs of panties and really enjoy the feeling of m bra and panties when under my drab male clothes. Wearing a bra and panties makes me feel feminine and provides a calm that I don’t experience when dresses strictly as a male.
I love when I’m lone in the house (my wife does not know about my full wardrobe) I do chores dressed solely in bra and pantie. I typically can’t wait for my wife to leave so I can dress, although I wear panties almost exclusively now.
How do manage to even conceal the bra under you male clothes? I find it hard to hide the straps. Sport Jacket/suit all the time?
Hello Lisa I also wear a bra, camisole,panties under my male clothes every day and just love it.I have been cought out a couple of times when I get a cuddle from someone and they feel the back of my bra . If I know I am meeting someone and that might happen I leave the bra off. It is quite funny when they feel it they get quite a shock.
Hello Lance,
I know what you mean about hugs. I used to like to wear as much of my ladies clothes when I’m having my hair done, but had to stop wearing my bras as my lady likes to hug hello and goodby. Also a co-worker who comes to the office only once in awile likes her hugs. I have to relly go out of my way to make sure she dosn’t go for one.
Hi Lucille honey goodness girlfriend I’m not sure about the boy cut panties I have a few pair maybe I chose a bad fabric since I bought them before I found your site but they have no flattening where it’s needed of course I’m too broke to buy any gaffs or thrift store bikini bottoms so I try to get by with control panties from Wal-Mart this girl has to get by on the cheap lol ok not funny really but I make them work for me best I can I do seriously need some replacements but until I better off financially I’ll have to live with what I have no silky lingerie I think my bra size is right huge Bcup girl here lol I kinda like night shirt type too not silky but fun femme ones we can’t all be sex kittens in silk anyway I Love You Girlfriend’s Love MJ
I love wearing sexy, lace lingerie. Vintage stuff I like particularly–it fits better and that bras, whilst sexy, fit so much better especially with breast forms; also a matching garter belt with seamed stockings make up my underwear usually. Tights(or pantyhose)are good too for day to day wear and looks good over skimpier panties…