Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. Would you like to learn more advanced feminine movement strategies? My Stepping Out Secrets Program will show you how to master all the elements of a beautiful feminine image, including: moves, curves, fashion, beauty, voice, confidence, and more! Click here for all the details.
I’m just getting starting in being female. I’ve always wanted to be a girl way back when I was 6 I knew girls were neet I want to be one. Unfortunately, even thro my mom (who did want a girl) sometimes dressed me up as a little girl, I didn’t continue that way. Now I am in my late 50’s and determined to become what I’ve always wanted to be, a woman. I look at women and I love the way they walk, talk, and dress, so here I am like a little girl all over again experiencing wonderful and delightful things. I know it will take me a while, but I know the woman in me will come out. Thanks for all your help. It means so much to me.
Jennifer Ann
Thanks, Carla!! I always love to hear from you. Yes, RELAX and be yourself! It really works. 🙂
Thanks a lot. Still am a nerd. cant down load. Videos were wonderful and I wish I could see the whole program.Dawn
I find it easier to relax when I BELEIVE I am the woman I portray. It also makes me feel more feminine and I enjoy the whole experience much more. Doing it right also means more guys thinking dirty thoughts about what they want to do with me! Oh, I love that part 😉
When Lucille Sorella talks… I listen!!!
Thanks a bunch Hun!!
Bonnie
PS, I wanted to send you a picture, hope you get it. With Love…….Lindsey
Well, I’ve never really had any problems. I’ve been on HRT for about five years now and I guess everything has kinda taken care of it’s self. But those are really very good suggestions. Thank You So Very Much, Lucille . Luv ya…….Lindsey
I noticed that when I relaxed that I had a natural feminine walk. And Lucille has been a big help in learning to relax and just be a lady. Much like her.
Hugs, Lucille. =)
I am still learning how to walk and sway my hips as a female would but forty years of living as a male it is really hard and really difficult to get it.
Lucille,
I found some amazing shoes which will help walking feminine- MBTs (Masai Barefoot Technology)
I originally bought them as part of my exercise /walking routine (I am rebuilding my health, my bone and muscle strength- because I did not transition earlier as recommended by the doctors for over 50 years! I have a body that demands a female harmone balance in addition to Gender Identity Disorder- Not shifting my balance much earlier has been both painful and costly- Finally, the doctors told me to Transition or Die!)
The MBTs have a very different design, and have online exercises at MBT-info.com. Prior to using MBTs I started wearing 2 2/4″ and 4″ heels. I often had to be careful both because of pain and balance. After walking and exercising with the MBTs for a week, I find that walking in heels is now easy. Also, combined with the Bombshell Body Workout and Yoga/Pilaties, I am now much more relaxed. My personal trainer had been emphasing releasing tension- The MBTs are helping me relax. Also, I tended to slump over before both because the hormone balance problem had led to bone problems in addition to my confidence. Working with the shift in hormones, the MBTs and my personal trainer has helped me to relax and straighten up.
Lucille, you have been a Godsend in all of this. I carefully follow all your recommendations.
A good example of this is my breast development which has startled both the personal fitter at the Breastform Store and my physician (She is transender- a Clinical Teaching Physician from UCSF who has gone through much of what I am going through- I am blessed to be under her.)
My current dimensions are 46″ (Breast), 36″ (Waist), and 42″ (Hips). I wear a 40D for exercise, a 42C normal, or a 44C with enhancers. Wow!
By the way, my health has come back remarkably well following your recommendations.
I am now moving into full transition.
I will send you pictures as soon as I can figure out how to do that online.
Lord bless you- Love you-
Chris (Christina) Poulsen
Thank’s Lucille. I have been wearing high heels for over 20 years and my feminine walk comes very natural. I wish i could do it in public so i can get my whistles. I hope that day will come. Thank’s Love you.
Oh and don’t forget – if you’re walking fem but not “en fem” and some bloke comments about your funny walk – just tell him that your back doctor/chiropractor told you that you were holding too much tension in your back trying to keep your hips and back rigid. People will understand just about anything if you’re doing it to avoid back pain.
Awww – hugs to you, Janet! Thank you!