Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Lucille,
Although I have had questions about my gender most of my life, I am a late bloomer. Because of my weight I have not ventured out of the house yet. I really appreciate all your tips and look forward each month to a new topic. I really look forward to the day when I can actually go out en femme!!
Deborah
P.S. Thanks to my sisters for their encouragement and helpful ideas.
Fluid, graceful movement may be one of my greatest assets as a (transsexual) woman.
It is wonderful to go out and about, simply walking, practicing my posture and enjoying the loose, gentle ease of my body: it’s a joyful, sensual experience for me, and it also seems to cover-over my remaining visible masculine cues.
For over a year, I have been living full time as a woman, and a de facto woman for longer – I ceased living as a ‘man’ about five years ago.
Hi. Im from Sweden so my english it not so well. But i have gut o female personalnumber in my id and passport. And go to sugergeri in Okt. -13 And so god to being a women And have a vagina. I look forward to that. And Lucille you are a anderstanding and georgius women My best to you.. Love Tone From Sweden.
Love the video and the advice. I know with experience I’m more relaxed out and thus I get checked out allot more than in passed years
Thanks, Tracy! Yes, being relaxed is KEY. 🙂
Hi. I have now get my female personalnumber, and got to kurguri in September… I live in sweden So my english is not so god. But you are a lovely person. Best regards from Tone. And Sweden. Kisses
I think I probably tend to sometimes over-exaggerate swinging my hips. I know that’s not good, but I think it’s better to err on the side of that than what so many gurls do, which is to walk like guys in dresses. I don’t get out en femme much lately 🙁 so I sometimes practice walking in my 3.5″ heels at home. That helps me learn to walk like a woman.
Hi Lucille.
I am 65 and not too good at makeup. However, I’ve still got fabulous legs and a full head of thick, pure, shining white, shoulder-length hair. Even the young girls comment on it in the clubs.
My feminine hips (Born with them,) cause me to easily walk with a sophisticated feminine gait. I’ve got boobs, natural, 36 C and I’m working on reducing my waist to 30/28 inches.
I have huge fun in the night clubs on international rugby nights in Cardiff. When rugby supporters walk up behind me thinking I’m some young blond chick it’s hilarious when I turn around and they stand trying to work out my age. Most mistake me for about forty to forty five, (Even the girls think about that.) then I show them my bus pass, sixty-six. Howls of hilarity ensue.
Still taking the hormonal herbs. Boobs growing nicely.
XXX
Beverly.
For your age you are looking great what hormonal herbs are you taking?
Sharon
sharon3@xtra.co.nz
I have always walked from the hips down NOT the shoulders down I found walking this way gets your mind off of your upper body relaxing it alowing the shoulders to drop down and back and alowing your arms to swing WITH your hips and not your legs doing this with heels at least two inch definetely helps, I prefer four to six inch heels.
Luv ya Lindsay