Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi all,
I have found the use of video a wonderful tool, as I use it to check my new outfits shoes, walking checking from front and rear. I video my self putting on makeup it shows where I can improve.
I have never had problems walking I heels and love them.
Thanks for your help Lucille
Sharon
One of the things I found hard was adapting to different height in heels AND platforms. Wearing platforms was a completely different way of walking to walking in heels as there is less foot movement I found when wearing platforms Maybe I am getting it wrong but it just felt very different. Maybe the GG women can give me some feedback about wearing 4 inch heels with and without platforms?
Lucille,
Thanks for all the advise. In time this will be much easier and all becomes second nature like driving an automobile.
My advise is… don’t forget to smile. Some say if you smile the whole world smiles with you. Your smile may be the most important thing they remember as you relate or walk past someone.
Enjoy your outing to where ever you’re going. Enjoy the moment. Don’t be worrying on what your doing wrong or if you think you’ve not passing. In truth… most don’t really care… as they go about their own business. But people will remember someone who is happy as their face may make you smile.
Thanks again Lucille for all you do.
Steve
I love your advice Steve, it’s what I try to remind myself of when people approach me. I’m self-conscious of my height (6’01) so I feel people are going to read me right away but you’re right, if they see someone smiling at them they don’t seem to notice anything else. Thank you for the reminder!
KG
after a lot of practice i can walk pretty good in heels, even 4-1/2 inch! 🙂 but the thing that i wasn’t doing right for so long is exactly what Lucille mentioned – i was walking too stiffly and too erect! i needed to relax, let my back assume a normal position, slump my shoulders and push them back a bit. worked wonders. most women aren’t into weight lifting after all – don’t try to strut your stuff!
also – from my experience the more you can get your feet to move in straight line in front of your body (crossing the legs just a bit) the nicer your feminine hip movement is going to look. stay loose girls!!!
xoxoxoxoxo
thanks so much as always Lucille. You are an angel
jamie
Hi dear,
I been getting some help from a lot of Female driver’s on my Walk and right now I can walk with full confident as a GG female. This has really help me in passing as a full female.
My issue is not siting up straight all the time but every thing else is pretty much perfect.
I have seen many of your posts over the years. And now, WOW, best look ever! Just a bit more blush and color for the eyes and you got it all.
Christy you look more beautiful than ever i have been in love with you for years…you look great with Love girl friend Laura
Hi Christy
Imust agree with Laura you are really developing into a very pretty girl, keep going girl !
hi Christy ive been watching your progress for years…you have become a pretty young lady;;; love your look Laura…
Hi Lucille,
This is excellent advice as usual – especially the part about “relax”. When I first started going out, I was inhibited – a little too tense. Once I started to relax and ‘let the heels do their job’, it all fell into place – walking that is.
Keep up the good advice.
Dani