Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Great tips! Some things I noticed about myself, that I changed immediately; one was how my arms naturally dropped by my side and swung while walking. They looked like I was a cowboy getting ready to “draw” my guns. Elbows slightly bent outward and hands loosely made into fists. I was out with a friend and, after a late dinner, I had her videotape me on my cell as I walked away and back again in the mall.
Two things I corrected, one was walking with less of a gap between my legs, and bringing my feet closer together almost as if to walk heel-to-toe. The other, which I brought up above, was to physically turn my forearms forward. This causes the elbows to rest closer to the sides of my body and eliminates that “gunfighter drawing” position. It also happens to make my hands rest in a more feminine position. I hope this helps someone as much as it helped me!
Thanks for everything, Lucille!
Anna
Anna,you are gorgeous
Oops! Meant to upload a photo! 🙂
You are very lovely. I myself have always been trying to emulate beautiful ladies, and at 75 I am still going strong
Oh, gosh, thank you so much! <3
Anna, you have such a beautiful and natural look , what ever you are doing keep it up, the male part of me says ” wow “.Dee
Cute!
I am lucky to be relatively graceful ever since I was a child. However my time in the military did ruon some of that so it now requires a bit of focus for certain parts. I do love your blog and all the wonderful tips you supply us gals with. Especially those of us who are just coming to terms with who we really are. Thank you so much.
I must admit I found the inline walk easy which will cause your hips to move if you are relaxed and nothing makes this style of walking more feminine than walking in line in heels something else I found quite easy.
I love to dress in womens clothes the only thing is my partner doesn’t like me doing it how can I convince her there’s nothing wrong with my feminine side or should I just stay in the closet and come out when I can
I love the tips you give! I’m a genetic female but I really like learning about transgender and cross-dressing topics. I find it all so amazing and admirable. Some of these tips are even helpful for more masculine females like myself. So thank you Lucille!~
A big difference between men and women is that men roll their shoulders and walk with their feet apart. Women roll their hips, keeping their shoulders more stable and step closer to their center-line. I can’t say I’ve mastered it, but I have the basics. Once you put on a pair of pumps and relax into it, walking the walk gets easier. Lastly, get a set of critical eyes to help correct your movements. This can includes friends and cameras.
I am a new gurl, just starting out on my male-to-feminine journey. I have a question about castration. I understand it is possible to make one’s penis and scrotum very small and shrunk by applying breast cream to it and wearing woman’s black compression briefs. This suggestion came from transfemme.com.
What suggestions do you have for castration?
Thanks for your reply.
Chrissey
My number is 83. As far back as 6 or 7when I started with thes feelings and I started to use my moms panties and fem pads. I wish I could get the surgery.
I don’t want to sound like a dick but pls wake up you’re 83 pls don’t make even think a srs you’re end up dying in surgery room.(if there is nitwit witch doc to perform a srs)