Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Oh – that wasn’t very positive! I can walk in heels though, i love that, when I’m out and about in the day i wear flats, and finally I have got a pair that are ever so comfy! Heels, fantastic – but wow they make you pay! x
Looks like not many people admit to having some problems – the thing is you’re forever learning, even if you know you should have been born a woman. I’m very expressive anyway, but i struggle most with been aware of my very slim but toned figure, and I dislike my arms and shoulders.
This makes me overly aware, and I tense up a bit, this in turn makes my neck and shoulders hurt. It depends how I feel – sometimes I can be aware of feeling pretty but knowing that A, I aren’t – and B I will never be, a genetic woman. This gets me down a great deal, and it can make me think what’s the point? It’s not all fun and games being TG x
thanks for your site/tips Lucille – they’re great.
Jessica, I don’t know what you dislike about your shoulders and arms, but from your picture you have such a beautiful face and nice smile and I love your hair and hair color. Dee
You look absolutely Beautiful.
Tara
You look absolutely stunning. I am guessing you are English.
English girls,as I am, tend to stand out. Don’t let things get you down. Just remind yourself who you are. You are not alone
I have the exact same problem .. I wonder if there is any surgery for arms or shoulders I would love to make them smaller
Bella, what beautiful name for such a stunning looker! Dee
that shot is a 10
Hi good looking lady. I wish you live by me in Mn. You look great and I would like to get to know you better. I do fell your pain to. I need some help.
i feel your pain xxxxx
My male counterpart spent a great deal of time watching the girls on campus at Dalhousie University. There of course was considerable variation. He also contrasted it with the walk of the young men. Interestingly there was a convergence he observed in the athletes; the girls and the boys had nearly the same walk. He also watched them sitting, and standing. He had former training in modern dance so he was a critical watcher. Since he himself is athletic by inclination, and slim of build, I am girlish in proportion. When I met a new friend and accompanied her to a community dinner she said to me, “You seem just like another middle aged woman. More so in person than in the pictures you posted.’ A fellow in the kitchen referred to me as, “That woman next to Ann”.
The walk starts in the centre of the body, a spot mid-way between your navel and your pubic bone, and again mid-way between there and your back. Think of moving your body’s energy out from that spot. Watch to girls and the women who were born into it. Watch in particular the one’s who are fit and a glory to the existence of humankind. That swing of the hips referred to in the posts above is a consequence of the way women use the musculature of the pelvis in their movement. It is a stronger walk than the loose walk of men. This is why there was a convergence in the athletes. The athletic men are less sloppy.
I think the key is to avoid side-to-side tilting or twisting of the torso, and to allow the waist to swivel. Women naturally avoid the torso motion because they have breasts, and swivel more easily at their smaller waist. The result is that hip motion is used for balance where men use the whole torso. Try to focus on graceful torso motion, and the hip motion will become automatic.
Hi Lucille,
I am very new to opening up to my femme self,but something I have noticed. I wear french panties under my day-clothes and find they are very chastising-hide my male genitles and give a very feminine appearance.But I have found ,with no male bits hanging between my legs, I seem to naturally walk with my steps in a straighter line-more feminine and not the manly “cowpoke” gait. I am not tall and elegant,but this femme gait makes me feel so.
Tabitha
Goose Jacket
Hi,Lucille
I would like to show my home private videos with the progress of feminization my walk by your advices and Rob Brinded walk matrix that I do every day on heels (2.5 inches)only for 3 months that sounds like miracle.You’re the best!
http://www.youtube.com/v/WCTmRjVzMkU&hl=ru_RU
http://www.youtube.com/v/Pt6JL8sEcsc&hl=ru_RU
Hi Rita
I adore your videos , wish to see more of you walking in high heels and mini skirt
A friend offered me a tip when I started working on my walk..
Women may step across the path of the other foot like a panther,( thus creating a less caveman look nd giving some nice natural hip sway.. BUT women do bend their knees when walking more then most men do, even in heels.
Look at most males walking and they lumber along and bend their knees because its a natural function. Women walk loser and more feline like then males and use their knees more.
But not high stepping, just more fluidly.