There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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This is one aspect that really hurts me, I have a lot of difficulty with my voice and am getting help with it but it hurts because I feel so dumb not being able to share my thoughts with people without blowing my image.
I grow frustrated as I believe in the power of conversation and that we are the more open and sociable gender but I instead find myself stranded between them, too feminine to share anything to talk about with the boys but excluded from girly chats.
I love the pic at the top of “How to Speak like a Woman”. I love wearing the red lipstick and nail polish while I practice. It makes me feel so much more feminine. Lucille makes me want to practice every chance I get so I can be the woman I want to be.
I am assuming that if you speak like you look you are awesome
Thanksies for the tips Lucille.
good to know I am already many steps ahead with talking like a women. Most of my life I have been talking like a women and I didn’t even know it XD
gosh darn it.
That pic was supposed to be my avatar XD
please ignore ladies =P
Congratulations Lucille.Hope you have a happy life with your partner.It will take work and patience.OhIi was so dissappointed with the bachelor.I was really thinking this time it was going to work out.
As far as this blog goes it does tell me that i do indeed have some very great feminine traits.I am a very active listener.Remember it is the message one should be looking for.Seperate the emotion from the message.Of course active listening is essential.The other thing that is so vital is to realize we are all different.It is so important that we do not put our values on somebody else.Of course self acceptance and self actualization is so important,
This did help though as I can speak very girlie.Now I need to be more expansive.I need to elaborate more and take an even greater interest in the other person.So the look is there,the inner part is getting better with the help of others.Learning from others makes for evemn more of a great feminine experience.Thankyou.
This is probably unusual, but I’m actually trying to avoid feminizing my voice these days. My voice can pass as female for short sentences, and I often use it because I lack enough self confidence to “just be me” when I’m dressed up.
I don’t like standing out in public, but at the same time, the more people that realize a crossdresser is among them, the faster society will evolve – I hope!
But thanks for posting the voice tips. Understanding more about women helps me be the best friend I can to those around me.
Around friends, I’ve notice that using my male voice makes them more comfortable.
This is so true and thank you for the tips and video.
Wowwee gurls what a journey , all of you are more experienced than i am allthough im probably older than you, im in my sixties now but i recently got told at a work meeting that i was in my forties lol i did have makeup on and nobody twigged. , i have been clothes shopping with my wife and the sales girls have said, can i help ladies , which made me feel good , my wife said nothing , she has bought me fem shoes , pretty fem top., and i have worn them out with her and all she said was that it looked good.
Today i approached a hairdresser to get my hair done and she offered advice and i told her i would be back during the week , she didnt bat an eyelid at me.
Later my wife and i went out to get dinner and whilst waiting in the shop my wife noticed my nails and said wow your nails are nicer than mine , i just said ty and let it rest , now during the week im getting my hair done and were going out for dinner with some old friends , im sure i will be outed. During all this i have watched everybody out of the corner of my eye and it seems nobpdy takes much notice even groups of guys dont seem to take any notice , which i am most fearful of , anyway
Please excuse the daily ramblings of an old gurl.
love gemma jayne taylor
Hi ladys…Last week i asked a girl in her thirties that i have known since she was 13 out to dinner I have been in love with her and told her so for years.I am 66 years and been crossdressing for years,i was dressed in male mode when we went out for dinner.She is a hairdresser i was so excited about going to dinner I did my nails and had gloss clear nail polish i put on a hour before we went out…i use Veet hair remover and totally hairless,i shave my face with hair conditioning ,use lady.s powder skin lotion,and perfume.At dinner she said how nice i dressed and where did i get my nails done and how lovely they looked.I told her i do them my self and that my skin is totally hairless every were and only wear women’s panties and love the way they feel against smooth skin.she said it was so nice to be with some one that could be so open about there feelings.We live in a condo in Florida so all the winter people gone…we just talked and talk for hours back at my place after dinner.She just moved in a few months ago.her place was her grandmothers who passed years ago,but she is living hear know.she had been living with her boss salon owner for a few years who was in his early 50.s.So I’m taking it slow to meet Laura…She was happy for Catlin Jenner…I told her i was also and know how she feels…She just got a pretty smile and winked at me…It would be a dream come true if this worked out…Hogs Laura XOXOXO