There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hello Lucille I haven’t mastered the art of girl talk I’m sure at least not completely I can talk with girls much better than with boys I’ve listened to a lot more girl talk and I do get a few words in here and there I feel I haven’t got to talk to girls enough or perhaps with girls enough although I feel I think much more along the same lines as girls just not about boys or fashion either for that matter I feel if they saw me as a girl they would talk to me more and I to them about fashion, shoes, hairstyles, and makeup etc. I’m not sure how to describe my relationship with girls I’m attracted to them for different reasons although somewhat the same I guess I’m more like a lesbian in a male body except I have no desire to be butch I’ve been that way long enough lol Love M.J.
I now understand the myself a lot better after hearing the gentleman talk about the male and female energy . I found it depend on what Mode I am in the Male of Female, who I am specking with , and what I am doing I can switch between the different energies.
How do women drive cars in skirts or dresses do they keep knees apart or togather I am a crossdresser myself
I have noticed that some women are very goal oriented–especially those in business. They want the answer, and then want to move on. When I do my typical rambling, one woman said “TMI! TMI” meaning too much information. The ones that are artists, writers, and other professions want and expect details, and how you feel about those. I find that refreshing, as the emotional part of me is not something I would want to suppress. Also, there are guys that are unsure how they stand with you, and want to know how you feel about them. Some relate with their feminine side, and want to empathize with how I feel. I like and appreciate that as well.
So he is right in the video that there are women with masculine energy and men with feminine. It runs an entire spectrum, and you have to respect that. However, I find that the fact that there IS a spectrum to make things much more interesting!
My voice is the biggest problem with my feminine appearence. My shape, height, skin, hair, hands, legs are suitable for easy, quick female transformation, but my original male voice is a deep bass. Whatever I try, my “feminine” voice remains far deeper than Odetta’s or Amanda Lear’s very deep voice.
But there are adventages, too. Once a New Year’s Eve, I was walking in the celebrating, happy crawd. I was also very happy because this evening was the biggest success so far of my female story. I first became in great public an elegant pretty woman in long red velvet evening dress with wavy light blonde hair. It was great feeling when I experienced first that people have admired me, my female appearence, kindly spoke to me. I felt really like an attractive lady.
I didn’t think that my female beauty may vary dangerous: suddenly a tall, violent, drunken man hugged me strongly from behind. He spoke to me peremptorily: “Baby, come with me!” I do not even got to that situation. I could be a victim of a rape? Like many real women? But it is also true, I was a little proud: is my strange female success that he attacked me as a woman, immediatly in my first major ladylike walk?
What can I do? I didn’t want to expose myself, to spoil the joy for my previous female success! Now I am a graceful lovely lady! With people, in the real life! So I want to stay, to continue to enjoy my feminity in the celebrating crawd! Who will help me? The people have thought: we belong together, he just plays, I am sure his girlfriend. I tried to escape from his embrace, but he was much stronger.
Finally, I had no other chance: I zeroed in on him – a pretty, weak blonde girl in the deepest, strong male voice! And fortunately, he was so surprised from this and stopped his attack. And I’ve changed immediately back into a lovely pretty lady.
The picture: a few minutes before the attack.
Well this is an area that i need a load of help with. My problem is that i have a really deep voice, and during the day i have to talk like a man to keep the respect i need to run my company. but at night when Danielle is comes out i still want to talk like a man! How do i practice talking like a woman, and still keep the respect i need to run my company?
Had a good girly giggle at this. But it is so true. Love all these little tips Lucille. Thanks
I have in some way the opposite problem! I have not came out to many people, so when meeting most friends and relatives I have been dressed as a man and used my male voice. But I have still not passed as a man! My behaviors, like which words I use or how I speak, has betrayed me. So some people have understood.
Wow I wish that was the case for me…..I feel so “guilty” on all of the above. When I talk to some girlfriends they tend to bla bla bla for like 30-60 minutes, and after like 10-15 minutes i loose interest and wanna go on with other stuff so i like put down the phone and go on the internet, or even fallen asleep some times, and when they find out they get pissed :)) Never had that problem with guys though.
Still i am a girl inside, truly. Maybe just a Little tomcat? I Always were dress at home when i can.
Michelle