There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I have been working on this for a time and have developed a pretty good vocabulary and tone. But like some others I too have a softer voice but am getting better on this. Your tips have worked pretty well for me. Love everything you do. Hugs xoxo
Isn’t it funny [and sad] that while there is more then enough proof of the differences between men’s and women’s brains [as per your link in your article for example] many people still scream and shout about stereotypes and how much harm they cause. When it would be much better to simply ‘accept’ our differences and rejoice in them and move on. 🙂
I found that there are tons of differences between men and women in vocalization and mannerisms that contribute to the overall impressions that others have of the person in front of them.
If I can pull off about 50% of them 50% of the time I have people question whether I am female or not even though I do not ‘pass’ worth a dang.
In the end, if I present as many ‘stereotypes’ as possible. People tend top perceive me as female in spit of me being taller and larger and facially stronger then many men. 🙂
Anyhow, also wanted to say I loved your article and you have yet again done a wonderful job of it. 🙂
Thanks for all of your help Lucille 🙂
Stephenie 🙂
I have problems with this every day. I work with other women, and most of the time I have nothing in common with them to talk about. I just don’t have enough female life experiences to join in. While I understand most things, I just can’t relate. I only talk about TG and new stuff I have bought or tried with the ladies that know about me. Most time I stay quiet, both that I don’t know and to hide my feelings and problem. I hate the fact I have hide….
I can say that your tips are like a toss up between a friend’s good advice and a t.v. show you look forward to every week.I really have become a better woman,thanks to you.I’ve noticed some of the things you’ve mentioned,but one thing I’ve noticed (either I missed or you didn’t mentioned)that some women are melodic in their sound(like they use more vocal pitches than males).When they speak they use more highs and lows than males.Am I wrong in this,or did you notice it too?
Hi, Lucille! I’ve been working on all three of these tips for some time now, as well as the pitch and tone of my voice. My only problem now is that I tend to speak a little too softly sometimes to be heard, but I’m working on that. I regularly get called miss and ma’am on the phone nowadays; unless it’s something that I absolutely have to deal with in boring boy mode, I generally let it slide.
Thanks as always for the amazing tips, hun! We love you for them, you know… (.^_^.)
Hugz!
Mellissalynn
Thanks for another wonderful, helpful blog!
While I don’t claim to have mastered the art of female communication, I do think I have one other valuable piece of advice: give yourself the freedom to communicate in a feminine way! Once you start doing so, you’ll not only feel more comfortable in your own skin, you’ll also help show others who you really are.
thank you that is very good advise
While I agree that male conversation is more metered to reach a point or goal, I find that having read a lot even if it is fiction, I gained a much expanded vocabulary and I am more comfortable in conversation with most of the people I associate with.
I don’t think like a guy verry well – I don’t understand men really =/ – but I was taught to speak like a guy… I was also taught to use a vocabulary of big words; and in general to keep up a large vocabulary.
when I’m feeling well, I pass as a girl easily enough – even when I’m not trying and even though I’ve not yet learned a female voice; because I don’t think like a man, don’t act much like a man, and even though I was taught to speak like a man I speak way too much, and listen more like a girl than like a man…