There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi all I have found that when I am at work with all of the men I work with i tend to speak like them. How ever when I hang out with all of my friends that are woman i talk just like them using expressive words and looks along with gusters alike. and I have found that I in joy hanging out with my girlfriends more then the boys. As woman we talk about life, love, family,work,friends,people we now from other places who we all have meet. and its more of a word game with use woman. men only talk about what they like and zone out when we start to talk. As woman we use facaul justers as well as hand moves and lip moves to make all things happy and fun.
Hello everyone,
Well, I would not go as far to say that I have mastered the female voice, but, I am very proud of the female voice I have developed.
I started by watching and repeating what women would say on television, the body motions and facial gestures are a big part of the overall effect. It all just flows together.
I also paid a visit (enfemme) to a voice specialist, and she was amazed with my voice. She asked if I had any voice coaching, and I said I had not. She said I did not need her help and to keep up whatever it was I was doing to achieve my voice.
It is amazing the confidence my voice has given me in public.
Unless they were being polite, no one has ever given me an odd look. I have never had a problem..knock wood..in public.
It is a wonderful life experience to be a woman out in public.
Stay beautiful,
Wanita
From your article now i realize that i speak more feminine than i thought. i always explain myself and when i tell a story i start with the background and work into the event and then give more detail at the end. Some of the guys i work with love listening to my stories and it is probably because there are very few women in our workplace so i compensate fot the lack of women. hehe. They would really get a shocker if they saw my lengerie underneath my work clothes.
Thanks Lucille for helping us.
Thanks lucillie for this vital information.it is true saying from the exprience.However some genetic women voice sometimes sound like male due to hard voce they have .thank you.
It takes time, at least for me. I’m sorta aware of the principles, but in actual interactions, I’m all over the map! sometimes right on, other times forgetful and slipping a bit (or more) into that “other” style. this is a long-term process, gals! but it’s encouraging to recognize progress, especially when it takes the form of the hoped-for reactions from whoever I’m talking to. It gets better as ya go.
I think it’s great to have a teacher in the art womanhood like you, Lucille. There is so much that I can learn to change my male patterns to that of a female.
You pass so easily. Such warm friendly eyes. Are you full time? The hair, real???
My favorite place for my fem voice is over the phone. Strive for fem not gay—alas–mixed results.
Tell me a little something about yourself–if you want to.
like you, I’m retired. However, I just started letting my fem side grow–so much fun–but many things are difficult.
Do you have CD friends and how did you find them?
Thank you Denise! I try my best to blend in.Yes, that is my natural hair. I am fully accepted in the retirement community that I live in.
ooooohhh looks like Lucille is gettin’ a little frisky there girlfriends, I quote……” open your mouth and keep it open” mmmm sounds like a plan to me
wayy ahead of you on that one deary =)
Womanly talk is built up on DETAILS, they think more romantic than philosofic,they can listen and speak in the same time, they master the colourful intonation of enticement.. they invented the language.