There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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About the brain differences in men and women – don’t trans women have female brains? I remember reading a study about that.
This is the same reason why I developed a want to change gender.
I always knew I was different probably even when I was born, but not realising what I wanted to do until 16 years later and now I am living it.
GREAT ARTICLE AND THANKS FOR SHARING!
i wood love to grow big breast like a female what can i do help me
I need to know more about feminine communication. My age and body type make it next to impossible to hold a job (more females than males have jobs in the region that I live. Besides, more females than males talk to me in the small town that I live in, anyway.
being trans is a gods gift. can see clearly behind the meanings of both. Think an established Ts probably good relationship counselor. On communication it is more important to be in ZERO EGO rather than try to duplicate any pre conceived role ideas….
Hi.
Depends on wether your talking with guys & working with them doing jobs,
I was trained under men so had to talk thier langage yet i was not male was seen as one just not one who could relate to & with them as one . tho was not an issue as such was more a matter of getting around that.
over the last few months some things have changed with in my self & one is i thought i was more male than i am. something that has been more impressed on myself ,
so being I S i thought how nuch ether way . as i have grown as a woman im at a stage of maintaining my self , i dont have to think about who i am its about …being…i never tryed to be a female becuse its allways been there,i allways have been just was closed down. for a time. that time is now over. now is for myself is a time of consolidating who i am so being I S has been my biggest advantage .
Yes there are some issues i contend with so i will get around those, & accept i cant change some of those i have to live with that, for myself its getting the ballance right,
to sum up. its being who i am & liveing in a way that says this is who i am &….. live it,
…noeleena…
this article is excellent, all to often, when trying to converse with other ts/tg/tv women on websites i am confronted with the kind of vulgarity that you would hear in a mens locker room.
now i don’t mean it should be all fluffy, pink and airy-fairy but some really need to show constraint.
i found that by substituting words and stopping swearing has completely changed the way that i communicate with others even though i still have a deep voice. its not booming but i wish it was softer
decorum is key and certain details should really be left unsaid…
I had no trouble emotionally with clothes, makeup, or deportment. Walking in heels is a breeze. But when it came to changing my voice, and learning how to communicate as woman, that’s when it got scary and I realized there truly was a woman inside wanting to see the light of day. Changing how you communicate and how you use your voice for inflections is what, in the long run, changes you from a man to a woman. Scary but very much necessary!