There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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‘…tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication.’
What a help to me that you put this just this way! More than 20 yrs ago at work someone in management said this about me, almost verbatim. At the time, I thought I was a cisgender straight man, if “atypical.” It’d be still a few yrs before I’d first put “questioning my maleness” on a form for a psychotherapist I was seeing. Now I’m seriously considering I may be a femme-leaning (trans) lesbian… actually not unlike (cis) her! Funny how that worked out…. 🙂
hi lucille im looking for an inexpensive way to feminize my voice
I agree, but I do think voice is important. I looked quite feminine as soon as I started to work on my body, but my voice was low and I got “sir’d” all the time. Then I worked with an amazing voice coach and I haven’t gotten sir’d since. It makes a big difference.
I think part of the way we speak and how we speak, is where we grew up. I have noticed how people who grew up in the city use different words and saying to those that grew up in a rural or outback area
Interesting though I know a lot of genetic women who say gut or belly instead of tummy or abdomen
There has been a few recent studies using active PET scanning that shows the same structures, and similar usage of tissue from the same stimulation as well.
This is a thing that comes up now and then that is highly dependent on where you are as well. Here in Colorado, from what I see, people are fairly gender neutral in speech patten and word usage. There are extremes of course, but in general, this list is useless where I live, and trying to follow it just brings you more attention; but not in a good way.
I find,Lucille,that I speak more like a woman in language because I never shut up about the same subject,he he:-).And I’ve been told this by my friends who,incidentally,are women!And it comes to something when even they tell me to shut up,lol.I talk alot which you say women do,anyway,and I see this in womens’ conversations.There was a time,recently,where two women were so deeply engrossed in conversation they lost all sense of time and where they were,so much so,even they were perplexed about it,lol.It was a joy to see,Lucille,and I was so fascinated by it.This tends to happen to me when I’m talking with someone.I do love language and read alot…Wow…just got a great idea!..What about reading more books by women authors?That would give great access into womens’ minds and would help greatly with speech,even though listening to women speak and how they express their ideas is key to how they vocalize their thoughts and feelings.
I do sing alot to my favourite female singers and enjoy it.I sing to sound like them as much as I can.I love womens’ voices and have many women singers and songwriters in my cd collection;their voices are so seductive and expressive,I feel,Lucille,I listen almost all the time to them.They communicate such deep emotion and I find I can channel my feminine energy so readily through singing with them.It often makes me cry,nearly all the time,lately,Lucille,now that I’m realising my true feminine self more.And your advice I find so valuable,I greatly appreciate it,and thank you,
Love,
Deborah.XXX
hi:Lucille i like to practice too much talk like a woman. thanks Lucille.