Are you a crossdresser or transgender woman who wants to look as attractive as possible? If so, you’re in the right place!
The great news is that anyone can achieve a beautiful and feminine look – no matter their age, size, or shape.
However, there are certain image mistakes you’ll want to steer clear of. These blunders can significantly detract from a feminine appearance.
In this blog post on transgender beauty tips, I’ll be sharing 10 common MTF image mistakes to avoid.
1. Dry Or Cracked Lips
The lips are one of the most sensuous parts of a woman’s appearance. Full, moist lips are undeniably sexy.
Dry, cracked lips are a major distraction, so be sure to care for your lips with a nourishing balm or lip treatment.
2. Dirty Or Untrimmed Nails
Studies show that the better groomed you are, the more attractive you are perceived to be.
Keeping your hands and nails well groomed is important since hands are one of the first areas people notice (after the face).
Straggly nails are a sign of poor grooming habits, so pay extra attention to your hands and fingernails to enhance your feminine look.
3. Crossing Your Arms
Your body language speaks volumes. Crossing your arms is a defensive gesture that can make you look uneasy or insecure.
To project confidence and attractiveness when presenting as female, keep your body in an open and relaxed position.
4. Poor Table Manners
Etiquette is an important part of your feminine presentation. (So much so that I wrote an entire blog post about it here.)
Poor table manners are a huge turn off, so be watchful for things like: eating too fast, chewing loudly, and putting your elbows on the table.
5. Lack Of Sleep
They call it beauty sleep for a reason. From dark under eye circles to sallow skin, lack of sleep can take a serious toll on your appearance.
If you need help sleeping, check out my Sleep & Sparkle Program, which is designed to guide you to sleep while reprogramming your mind with feminizing suggestions.
6. Pulling The Diva Act
We can all agree that rude and demanding people are unattractive – so avoid the “diva” act.
On the other hand, kindness and a smile can work wonders to enhance your female appearance!
7. An Unnaturally High Pitched Voice
If you are trying to feminize your voice, then you may be tempted to speak in an overly high-pitched voice.
While it’s true that women have higher pitched voices, speaking in “falsetto” does not sound natural.
What’s more, this study shows that women with high pitched voices are considered less attractive than those with moderately-high pitched voices.
All the more reason to speak in a more natural vocal range!
For more guidance, check out my post on the Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition.
8. Overpowering scents
Scent has a major impact on your overall attractiveness. Obviously, you’ll want to avoid turning people off with overpowering perfume or bad breath.
On the flip side, the right scent can make you appear more feminine and attractive. See my post on The Feminizing Power of Perfume to learn more.
9. Not Being Able To Walk In Your Shoes
The cutest shoes in the world won’t enhance your image if you can’t walk in them. Be sure you can walk comfortably and gracefully in your heels before stepping out in them.
10. Cursing
This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Using profanity when you speak doesn’t make you sound cool and edgy – it makes you sound crass and rude.
Your words can make or break your feminine image, so use them wisely.
In conclusion
These are 10 major crossdressing / transgender beauty blunders – but they’re not the only ones! Do you have any others to add to this list?
I’d love to hear from you on this topic, so please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. Now that you know what NOT to do, learn how to increase your attractiveness with my FREE 3-part Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
Aw Jeez, I will be having an extremley hard time with the cursing, I think I can handle the other nine fairly easily but the tenth will be my Omaha Beach, I tried a couple times now to clean up my vocabulary and the only thing I achived was to learn better curse words and how to mix and use them better! D:
Item 4, table etiquette, reminds me of a little ditty we would do at summer camp (remember those days?), when someone gave us an excuse at mealtimes: (put name in blank) “_____, _____, strong and able, keep your elbows off the table!”
Thanks for inspiring the nostalgia.
Thank you for all the desperation you complain to me in this I’m certain moment because I’m not so sure yet but I really want to become a girl
Hi, everyone .!
I just wanted to say ” Hello ” to my long time friend, SUZZY Q…and everyone else who comes to this site.
Why should you come to this Website for Good information, such as, These 10 suggestions on how not to act or let yourself Go…!
I have a ” Finishing School ” for CDers, who want to go forward into their journey.
All these suggestions are items we teach…you are getting them without coming to school!!
Love to All…
DR.T.J.
Hi Dr TJ! Great hearing from you! You look great in your photos! The picture of womanhood! It’s so nice to be out and about now and not wearing a mask! I love the summer where I can wear my cute sundresses, shorts and skirts! This is me the other day doing my usual shopping at the mall!
Take care, hugs, Suzy
Yes, Suzy, Summers are great here in the Great Northwest!
We here tend to like the weather a bit cooler, but had some 114 days last week…strange.
Love to see your pictures, maybe someday we can meet!
Later, Love…
Dr.T.J.
While a pout has its place… a smile seals the deal.
To me it is the first thing you notice and sets the tone for the total appearance and women have more joy than men so a smile and a playful personality are very feminine.
I hope nobody gets me wrong; I’m not complaining or anything. I LOVE the blog tips. I HUGELY appreciate receiving them. But sometimes it’s a naughty little thrill to point out a tiny error by SOMEONE ELSE for a change. So in the previous blog: “How to Choose the Right Makeup Colors”, Item 4, recommending matte lipstick, conflicts with Item 1 here, in that the lips shown are not smooth as recommended. TeeHee! (sorry)
Great tips, and I can tick off all the boxes, except one: the voice. I’m really struggling to speak using my upper register—not too high, but high enough that I sound more feminine. Does anyone have any tips for this?
Hi, Maddie, this may sound a little daft, but I know it works overtime, Pippa, Joanna, Deanna, Sherlie & myself all started doing this some years back, now Pippa is married to a nice man who not only knows everything about her past but helped her get the opp’s she needed, what you do is find your favorite female singer, then the one song of that dose it for you, the song that melts your heart each time you hear it, (Now the hard part) please try not to do this outside, people will think you have lost your marbles, but change the words of the song for everyday sentences, and sing the sentences to the music, you will keep your individuality, you will be retraining your voice, so it will not happen overnight, but your voice will soften, take care my friend in all that you do, love to you and your loved ones always xx
Relax,, you’re probably trying too hard then practice, practice, practice. It does get better. Listen to women speaking and emulate them within your boundaries. The pitch rises in certain parts especially toward the end of a sentence. Get professional help if it’s feasible otherwise it just takes work. My favorite thing is to change my voice just enough answering the phone forcing them to say “is that you”. It’s not easy but I learned it is possible.with a .little patience. Good luck
Jennie—thanks so much, will do! I have been using the “Sleep Sparkle” program I learned about from this blog, and it’s really helping with other things. I’ve never been a patient person, but I’m definitely learning, late in life, transitioning cannot be rushed. Work in progress, I keep telling myself ☺️
Oh, I know all these things so well.
And I have been really good at not cursing.
I do all I can on the nails.
Hi dear lady friends,
I am definitely guilty as charged for too much perfume and even make-up sometimes and since I don’t get to live as a woman, i don’t get to practice enough of some of the other tips mentioned like always keeping my legs together despite impediments.
“Sometimes its hard to be a woman” as Tammy Wynette sings for us all.
Let’s just be brave. Be true to ourselves
Good enough just as we are,
Love,
Sarah