Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Dear Lucille,
I agree with you and all the ladies! There is no age limit to start living as part time or full time woman. Limits may exist for some medical issues like surgery and therapy. But mind, it is as it is! I made some search in scientific literature because I was curious about the nature of trans mind, and as a scientist I could understand such papers rather well. Scientists observe more and more that for example, brain of a MTF trans person is much closer to that of a typical female than to a male person, and this choice happens during the second half of fetal life. So, the person born this way, will sooner or later, at some definite age start expressing her true nature. And this is exactly how all of us feel. I see myself so much younger since dediced to go on my transition, regardless of its duration or termination. I am inside a young woman, and I see myself only this way!
Love,
Beatriz
I’ll be 66 on the 28th. I think it is easier to pass the older you get. The correct make up will make you look years younger! Besides I like men older than 40.
VERY Classy.
I think you look beautiful very glamorous and your smile is .Captivating
Lucille, thank you so much. You run more of a “service” than a business. Just look at all the out pouring to this your latest post.
My story–it’s very feminine–put the needs of others before mine. Two years ago I buried my last love and responsibility. So at age 66, I started this new and happiest chapter of my life. Since then the details of my life are similar to the replies expressed by other respondents to this post.
Hi, Lucille,
You must have read my mind! It is actually the subject troubling me at present. I have been cross-dressing and feeling the woman inside me since I was a toddler. Now I’m in my 60+stage and have started getting doubts about it. Not that I don’t feel the urge or have lost my feminine instincts, but sometimes I get doubts whether I am now looking ridiculous or not. My wife, who knows and helps me, says I’m ok as long as I dress my age. She knows I adore short skirts and high heels, so I have lately taken her advice and for outdoors I wear midi-skirts or long skirts, leggings and sensible one/two-inch heels.
Needless to say, indoors I still go for the sexiest outfits, lingerie and shoes, particularly high-heel mules which I have loved ever since I used to wear my mother’s.
Are there others who feel like me, or should I just give it all up? I know that emotionally it is something that lasts a lifetime, but it would be good to know what other “elderly” ladies think about it.
Thanks for the opportunity. You are ever so kind.
MY only comment would be “Define age appropriate.”
Look at Julia Roberts, Meryl Streep, Anna Von Ruden. These women still have oodles and oodles of style.
I suspect the wardrobe part of your inner fem is one thing that makes it so fulfilling. Sexy doesn’t only come in 3inch heels or 25inch skirts.
Trust me I have seen many incredibly sexy older women, that knew how to dress. It’s about style. Not age.
I’ve always hated the term “age appropriate.”
With the right attitude, one can pull off nearly anything.
Good luck!! And stay true to who you WANT to be, if not who you MUST be.
luv luv luv
Michelle
Hi Michelle,
Thank you so much for your comments. They make a lot of sense. It is good to know age does not matter when it comes to feeling feminine, grooming, trying to remain alert to fashion ideas and letting oneself go without exaggeration or being excessively camp.
Lots of love.
Caroline
xxx
Where do I start? So many of the responses on this thread tell my story…started dressing in secret in my preteen years, got discovered, went further underground…came back to dress in (first) wife’s clothes…that marriage ended, not due to my dressing however. Then as I got older, got bolder–funny how that works. Now I have come out to my second wife, although after nearly 30 years secretly dressing, and have a fem wardrobe hanging in my closet next to my ‘DRAB’ stuff. It’s still not all roses in my current relationship…but it’s not a secret either–that feels really good.
I knew at 5 that I was a girl, started dressing in my Mom’s stuf at about 11, keeping it well hidden from everyone due to it being very taboo back then. Had one failed marriage after 1st wife caught me dressed.
In Jan 1977 while going through my divorce God sent an Angel into my life who accepted and supported me from our first date, he was kind enough to share this Angel named Gerri my second wife for 32 yrs before calling her home in Feb of 09. We originally planned and started my transition in 1981 but as we often said
Life interfered first with an unscheduled transfer from one company to a subsidiary company, then when we were ready again. We had to postpone to help my Mom take care of my Dad with his Alzheimer’s,then when we lost Dad Mom ended up sick and after we lost Mom Gerri developed a malignant stomach tumor and later after beating the Cancer with an alternative treatment she found on the web she also developed COPD from years of smoking ending up on home Oxygen the last 3 yrs of her life. Because of her medications I had to still not transition so as not to lose the ins coverage without which we couldn’t have paid for her medications. After she passed away in Feb of 09 i ended up getting laid off in April 09, with my job/craft in printing being eliminated by computers and no jobs in printing within 75 mi of where we had been living and my 65th birthday in May 09. I decided I had no one to worry about but me and my little furry Daughter AnnaBelle my Chihuahua and knowing what we’d tried to do together I made the decision to file for my SS and become the real me, so on May 1 09 I went full time 24/7/365 and have never looked back or regretted my decision. Once more God has blessed me in that all the family we have left accept and support my transition and to the best of my knowledge I have yet to lose one friend in my transition, including one friend I had lost contact with for over 30 years when he and his wife and me and my Gerri both moved a longways away with no forwarding addresses to share at the time.
I’m currently back home in Florida where Gerri and I lived for 13 yrs taking care of Mom and Dad, I’m totally accepted as Patti by both the old people who knew me before and the new people who don’t have a clue. People we knew before treat me as if Patti is the only person they ever knew. I pass well as I had 32 yrs of training from the Angel who was sent in Jan1977 and who shared my life for 32 yrs, and often said she was a very lucky woman as she had a friend, a lover, a husband, a girlfriend and best friend all wrapped in one. We spent a lot of time together as girlfriends and I know much of my ability to fit in and be accepted as the woman I’ve always been is due to my Gerri. The only tiny regret I have is she is not here to be able to share this new life with me but I’m also sure she is looking down from heaven with a smile and likely whispering in Gods ear to make things go so well for me.
Gosh – where do i start…the short version is…i realized i was different and started wearing my Mom’s skirts, dresses and nighties when no-one was at home and nearly got caught a couple of times. Then got married and started wearing my wives clothes when she was out or traveling. Got divorced and thought nows my chance to start to come out, but with two kids form my first marriage battled with the concept and so just dressed secretly at home, which was so much easier because i had a new wardrobe with all my girlie things hehehe. Then got remarried and had another two kids. One night during love making my wife made me put on the panties she was wearing, oh my word, i thought i was in heaven and was so aroused. This moved on to her buying me a nightie which she made me wearing during love making or when we were traveling , then suddenly stopped when she thought the cross dressing was turning me on more than she was 🙁 . So i eventually started to cross dress in secret all over again, bought new outfits and wore them, then threw them away when i felt guilty about being “unfaithful” to my wife and family (this has cost me a fortune over the years). I am now 53 and have a stash of women’s clothes hidden away which i wear when i am alone. In the last 12 months i found a dress maker on the internet, explained my situation and she has been making clothes for me. Its been wonderful going around to her studio and being fitted with a new outfit and spending some girlie time with her. I have started dressing for these sessions, which takes some carful logistics so as not to get caught. What has really built my confidence though is buying a wig, as when i am driving my car dressed for my appointment or when i am at the appointment i feel i have so much more confident which is growing every time i dress. Funny thing happened yesterday – when i had my final fitting for my new 50’s dress (with tulle petti…its stunning) we (dress maker and i ) decided i should wear the dress when leaving the appointment. Well i felt like a princess and wanted to just show everyone how pretty i looked (clearly i did not for fear of getting caught), well when i tried to take the dress off i could not reach the back zipper or get it down i really panicked…eventually after much struggling i realized i was not going to get the job done without tearing my new, beautiful and expensive dress. I saw i women walking toward my car and just opened the window and asked if she could help, she gave me a strange look but obliged…phew what a close call…hehehe
Lovies to all you girls out there …
Love Elaine
I started dressing at a younger age. For a long time my parents tried to fix what isnt broken. I now dress and go out enfemme whenever I get the chance or want. I will be the big 40 in a few weeks. NOBODY is ever too old to live out how they feel. I went out shopping tonight enfemme. I had a few things that the woman in me wanted and needed. The best darn thing in this world, is that I got some nice compliments from a few gg women. One went as far to tell me that she wished her legs looked as good as mine do! That is one mood and spirit uplifter!