Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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you are right, it is now better than nothing,,, and it is never too late.
but you know, I wish if I do a surgery to be a complete woman and having all sex organs as a female, I don’t know is this operation will help me to be a true female and is it too late for this???
My only regret is I did not start sooner. I have always felt the Little girl in me and tried everything to be the man I was surposed to be. When I was 60 years old I came out of the closet and started going out as a Girl. I just wish I started sooner. I been on Hormones now for 10 years and really feel good in my girl Mode. I am now almost 72 and plan on being a girl as long as I can still walk in heels and passable enough to be in Public. Thank you for this wondweful site and some of the Ideas I have learned here…
Hi I say thank you for sharing with me I am still lost and and trying to do it with out the hurt of other once I can look good to go outside I will feel better we’ll thank you❤️
72 years old? Gee, u look great and don’t look older than 50 to me!
i am still ayoung crossdresser at 25 and I was furtune enough to explore my girly side starting at 16 with the help of my dear gg friends I hope to grow old as a girl to be able to express myself as I do now
Leah, go for it while you are young, don’t waste any more time in male mode!.
You are beautiful, and trust me you will look gorgeous in your later years.
Wow if only I had known years ago I may have looked as cute as you! Very sexy!
I am 57 years old, and have decided to transition at this, as some have told me “late” stage. I have always had people telling me who I was, but when I was “outed” as female, dressed as male as I could at a hardware store, it told me all I needed to know. I put a 20 on the counter, and then the clerk first looked at my hand, which had a ring finger the same length as the index finger, and then she looked at my throat and the lack of an Adam’s apple, and then to my brow ridge, or rather lack of one, and my face and the lack of a beard shadow, and then said, “Thank you Ma’am” and winked at me like, “you’re one of us girls!” I suppose my voice didn’t help either, and trying to put it in a low timbre throws me into a coughing fit. I’m a 36B as well, and have to wear a compression bra to look remotely male. Soon, very soon, I’m not doing this any more.
To back up a bit, I am intersexed, but raised as a male (big mistake!). I look in the mirror, and see the figure of a woman. I have been over 50% female all my life, and let work distract me from thinking about what I am. Women’s clothes fit better than men’s, and women are more accepting of me than “the guys” are. I think men don’t know what to make of me, but women look at the feminine attributes, and the figure underneath the baggy clothes (foolish to think I could hide it) and somehow know what might be there.
A friend of mine, Nicole, transitioned at my age, and said, “Better late than never!”. It is so true.
Bottom line: Don’t let life’s distractions get in the way of who you really are. I could have done this in my 20’s, and dealt with all the flack then from my family and friends instead of waiting until my parents were gone, and many friends were buried as well. But I will have 20 or maybe even 30 years of womanhood to look forward to. It’s better than thinking back at the end of your life wondering what might have been.
I completely agree with you Lucille.
I however, had spent around 38 years battling with my transsexualism, (33 if you exclude the very first time that I realised that I wanted to be a woman, at the age of 4.)
Now, at the age of 42, I’m seriously regretting all the time that I’ve wasted trying to persuade my inner self that I am a MAN.
All that time that I’ve tried to conform to societies norms, all that time that I’ve spent trying to become a mans man through some exercize and a little weightlifting, becoming a womanizer (and yet failing terribly, I just don’t have it in me) because I want to be the one that get’s “chatted/picked up” by a man.
Now I have a long-term female partner who doesn’t want to understand and she thinks that I do it for sexual thrills…nothing could be further from the truth. I also have two young children……at the moment, I believe that my duty is to my family. I’m prepared to wait until I transition, or until I go legally insane, lol.
Katy, It looks like you’ll eventually transition, so why
not start now while you’re young, try Lucille’s flat 2 fem programe using herbs.
Hi Katy,
It is a difficult position u are in, like many of us. But please do not regret the time u say is ‘wasted’ – u have enabled the miracle of life not once but twice, surely that is something to be proud of…? This is my view, I have a daughter of 12 years, would not change my past for the world… but she does not know about the real me and I fear her reaction should I come out.
I don’t know how old your children are. But I would say they would likely adjust easier to Katy if they knew before double-digit years. I divorced when my daughter was 5, she treated the whole thing as a novelty, having 2 homes, 2 sets of toys, etc. I know u transitioning is not quite the same, but I feel the principle is similar.
It sounds like your partner just does not understand what gender dysphoria is… like a lot of the people on this planet.
Good luck,
Andrea
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I had this friend who had been married 10 years. She had decided that while the relationship was shite, she needed to stay in it for the kids.
In the end the kids suffered greatly as a result.
When one parent isn’t happy, the other parent knows it.
Worse still, the kids know it, feel it, and respond to it.
I’m sure I’m not telling you anything you didn’t already know.
Also, we have to remember that as time goes on, we change. What was right or tolerable for whatever reason, is no longer right or tolerable.
I personally only started transitioning at 41.
I’d fought it so hard for so long, that it had nearly killed me.
Please don’t wait until that happens to you.
See, I’m living full time now, and I’m still attracted to women.
Granted it’s hard. However, my girlfriend at the time stuck by me. She loved me for me. We split up for other reasons.
The right partner will understand and likely remain a part of your life in a different capacity.
Just be happy. Truly happy, truly happy.
And do it before it destroys you.
Michelle
Hi Lucille, I’m really glad you posed this question. I turned 60 last July and I feel great. I’ve been expressing my femme side from a very early age and I’ve gone through many “phases” over the years. I feel the last few years have been terrific. I dress in a very stylish yet age appropriate manner. I attract a more mature and better class of men. There is nothing more flattering and affirming than having a
gentleman tell you how classy you look. People are shocked when they find out my true age. To be honest, in true female fashion, I’ve been able to lie about my age to the tune of 10 years. I love it.
Thanks for all you do!
Loving femme whenever possible
Oh I have been doing it since my twenties but it is easier now a I grow older and am even able to visit the Supermarket now