Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Lucille,
I always knew since about the age of four, and over time explored my female side. I didn’t do anything about it until I was in my late fifties. If I hadn’t I would not be here today. So as you say it is never to late.
In the last five years I have seen a whole new side of myself that I knew was there along. Life is now wonderful and I could not be happier. I transitioned and now I’m six months post-op living my true life. Making the most of what years I have left with someone very special.
Your site was a god send to help me to get started on my way and I can’t thank you enough, you have been such a big help.
Living life now is so much better than just going thru the motions.
We all have the right to be happy and live life as we should without judgement or fear.
I only discovered the truly feminine side of myself when I was in my late fifties. I always knew I was more sensitive than most males, but never connected those feelings with femininity. I am now 69, and own no male underclothing, or socks. All of my casual trousers (slacks?) shorts, and jeans are off the women’s racks, as are most of my shirts and all of my tee shirts.
At first, (like for the first year or so) wearing women’s clothing was a sexual turn-on, but now it is simply part of who I am. I don’t try to “pass”, although there have been occasions when I have, and was not spotted until I spoke.
My favorite poem is “Warning”, by Jenny Joseph; it sums up perfectly how I feel, and how I approach society’s constraints against men wearing “women’s” clothing.
I am a member of Tri-Ess and their affiliate based out of Atlanta, Sigma epsilon. I’m a serious cross dresser and this a fantastic group of girls. We meet monthly and have a blast. We have a spring ball in April so now is the time to check us out. You will not find a more welcoming group of girls like you.
Svetlana
Although I had brief phases of interest in wearing clothing identified as feminine, they were few and far between and always items that would not have been obvious to others. Except for some occasions before my teenage years…
But around the age of 60, I began a phase that I now see was one of becoming more myself than at any time in the past.
Beyond acknowledging that I do wear some clothes that aren’t usually categorized as “male”, I don’t regard myself as a cross-dresser. I’m just a person who likes to wear the clothes I like to wear… whichever department they are sold in.
Although I am still “becoming”, I’m in no rush. Sometimes I wish that I had this attitude to myself in general when I was much younger. I might decide to adjust completely from what I became- definitely and unmistakeably having the outward appearance of being a masculine man. But I am who I am, nobody else.
I know it’s easy to think about things that are in the past. What I have now in myself is more and more who I really am.
With all the above and a wife who is not only my partner but my best friend… she accepts me as I am and helps me with so much of my development … things are good, and they can only get better.
What a great question. Lots of responses. I agree, never too old. i was about 55 when went to the store and bought my first pair of panties. That was a transformative moment for me as i discovered something about myself that was there all the time but i simply did not know it. Strange perhaps but true. Since that time – now eight years later – i have taken many small steps but always in the direction of giving further expression and space to my own femininity and it so very life giving. I doubt that I will ever seek to fully transition – like so many others I do live a full life as with family and work. But it is also true that I have permanently shed so much of my male skin and continue to add feminine touches to my daily life. Lucille – your website is wonderful and I have purchased and loved products from you, including your Stepping Out Secrets and your feminization hypnosis program. I listen to it often. Most of my body hair is long gone. Scented body lotions each day, a touch of mascara. At the salon my stylist has been working with me to develop a more feminine style as my hair grows out. My wife and i go for mani-pedis at least one a month. So far sheer polish for me, but some color will come soon I am sure. I don’t try to pass as a woman but I often go out wearing one or more items of women’s clothing. Whenever I shop for feminine items I no longer am shy about saying I am shopping for myself and my experiences are almost universally positive. Often when going shopping i will wear something clearly feminine – like a pretty top – so that the sales woman does not really have to guess. But as you have said the real woman come from inside and I work to embrace and nurture the woman inside me. I do gravitate to the women’s circles at social gatherings to join in the girl talk as best i can. My reading is mostly stories written for and by women. Romance movies are my favorites, I love being in the company of a roomful of women for my yoga class. Shopping and cooking and serving good food to friends is a joy. My flower garden is a source of pride. The sweet rush of feminine energy I get from so many things is special and I know that I love being a girl.
So it is never too late to accept the gifts that come from inside, even if they are unexpected.
I starting when I was 60. My wife did not want to have sex anymore but I wanted to be close to her. I had thought about dressing up earlier in life but did not have the need. Now I do. I bought my first panties and went to bed with her wearing them.
I told her I had them on and she wanted to know why? I told her that it made me feel closer to her. She said OK. I now wear panties 24/7. She also know I I have bras and “dress up” sometimes. We had our first pedicure together recently and now I get Mani-Pedi all the time. I use clear pink polish.
Paula
I’m 33 years old, and to be honest I’ve never felt more feminine that I do now. Girls come in all ages. I do wish that this blog had been around when I was 12 (1991), but fortunately for kids today here it is.
Goodmorning Lucille and all girlfriends,Your right Lucille youu are never too old to crossdress. It takes time to get yourself setup clothes makeup and all accessories depending on how a person wants to feel and make themselves complete.You candress as a woman till the day you die.each person has the freedom to dress or not to dress as they like no matter what age they start. I think it is more of a feeling of being complete when I am dressed and go out as a woman . The feeling is like no other and other women will tell me when I am out it is so nice to get dressed up and go out to shop or lunch or just visit. One of my favorite things to get dressed for is the salon always a dress or skirt and my favorite undergarments especially when going out for an arm waxing. It takes a long time to get the nerve to go out but once you do take advantage of your goal. Age is just a number we all will be gone one day. Dont let a deadline like age let you not try the ultimate feeling of being a woman it is a feeling like no other . So many different feelings with all of the things needed to become a woman they are all my favorite I love each step of getting ready as a woman.Dont let age stop you.Love Mandy