Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Dear Lucille. When I go out shopping I love to mix up with all the other women. I love to do my shopping and talk it over with the other women. As natural as it’s supposed to be. Specially since I know that I look as a natural woman and also feel as a natural woman. It makes me feel very relaxed. I also want to be dressed as the latest fashion and I really found my style. Before I couldn’t find my style so very good and because of that I felt always different. I didn’t feel comfortable. But now since I found my style I feel very comfortable and safe to go out shopping. Lucille I want to thank you for your nice programmes and I’m so proud that my little girls growing and growing. Love Henriette.
At 6’4″ I always stand out whether en homme or en femme. I like to dress nicely with some style and fashion. Other than that I’m unconcerned and go where I please. Note that the picture of me was taken in front of my home. I’m not hiding. Fortunately the vast majority of Americans could hardly care less what I am or what my problem might be and I really appreciate their lack of concern. So most of the time I’m not all dressed up and just look like a man wearing a lot of feminine stuff. I’m not sure what’s the most obvious about it, the brightly colored acrylic nails, my purse, the blouses, the jewelry, the long auburn colored hair though I’m a couple inches bald in front, quite a sight to see. Is riding the gender fence like that supposed to start a riot? Hasn’t happened yet. Instead I get an occasional compliment on the nail color. I’m certainly standing out more then I’m blending in but oh well. Something about the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness sums up how I feel. I’m free and it makes me happy. 🙂
I don’t mind standing out. It sends a message to those out there who are not ‘out’ or are too afraid to come out that it’s okay.
Blending is important to pass as a woman at first. But being noticed and recognised as an attractive and stunning female, is the ultimate goal for me.
Mandy is spot on. I think it’s possible to be noticed as an elegantly dressed feminine person in a day-to-day situation like going to the supermarket without attracting critical attention. It’s all about dressing appropriately for the occasion, and when going out where other women are dressed up, then of course you blend in better if you try to look more attractive. If it’s a party then go for it. Whatever makes you feel good.
I try to balance it the two, I don’t want to stand out too much like a beacon, but I don’t want to just blend in with everyone else around me. I always choice something with a bit of pop to draw the eyes, but as well as using a good foundation to make it a good solid look and feel. Like I’m not going to a mall looking like a porn star or someone that just left a dinner party. I usually choose a nice pair of tight dark blue jeans, and a nice top in an eye catching color or a eye catching top that sparkles.
signed
Yuna
You hit the nail on the head Lucille. It’s much easier to dress down to blend in. Where I live not many women put in much effort to stand out in their day to day clothing. Perhaps they try a little harder if they are younger or are going out in the evening.
Just a little makeup a pair of leggings or jeans and a simple blowse would do the trick to blend in so as not to be noticed too much. But for many of us that defeats the object of dressing whether we want to attract attention of not. Unless we are dressed in a sexy dress with sockings and nice shoes, lovely hair and makeup, it seems hardly worth the bother. The idea is to look as different as possible from the way we used to look as a man.
I’m 6′ 3 1/2″ tall so I stand out as a woman whether I want to or not. So blending in is good for me