Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I want to blend in, and I do. I am 57 years old and just discovered my feminine side 4 months ago. I am 5’10”, 200 lbs. I get ma’amed routinely and use the ladies restroom. People aren’t looking for it. I don’t look people in the eye, I speak softly. My mannerisms are adequate. I mostly dress in jeans, plain top and grey jacket. Flat shoes. I always wear makeup and prefer red lipstick. I am shaved and wear a necklace and female jewelry. Nice, well chosen wig. No one gives me a second look. Sometimes when I am out in drab, I tell a clerk and come back later dressed to say hi. I am lucky. I look pretty good. A woman in my transgender support group thought when I walked in the first time that I was a GG coming to support a TS friend. Passing is important to me. I have a ways to go before I can standout as a hot sexy woman. Blending in is alot to me right now.
when i go out i want to be noticed!!!!! but not to the pointof drawing the wrong type of attention. yes iwant to be looked at nad maybe even a few catcalls! by men and women knowing im not a gg is the biggest turn on for me knowing that im not what i appear to be!!!!
Hi Lucille,
I think we would ALL like to stand out and be noticed, if only we looked more like genetic women than “men in a dress”.
When I go out, I go out dressed as feminine and beautiful as I possibly can and, although all my friends say I look very much like a girl, I know that I still look (and definitely sound) like a man in a dress, but I put in a lot of effort to look and behave as feminine as possible, if only to avoid any abuse or embarrassment and I am more than happy just to blend in and get back home safely.
Lots of love to you all. Be beautiful butterflies always.
Thanks Lucille.
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to be thought of as sexy female is end prize, but just to pass with out abuse or Word Freak !ringing in ears would be great.5ft 7 38c 33 40 but still long way to go
i guess when im in town or out and about i dress more conservatively, i try to be ‘one of the girls’. i would hate to recieve abuse in the high street for being an obvious fake, but, if peple pass and say ‘was that a guy?’ then im happy.
camera chat rooms are slightly different though as i tend to head for the outrageous
attention seeking i guess…..
I am also 6 foot 5 and i feel like i want to blend in as being tall you really stand out above the crowd – but my inner female for sure wants to stand out – so is this 6 foot 5 me the male side that fears and should i be happy with my height to stand out -???
I already stand out….for all the wrong reasons. I am 6’5″. I would love to be able to go realatively un-noticed when dressed.
I would rather take advantage of my best looking feminine features, legs, bottom. Then a pretty wig and makeup. I want to be looked at but still want to pass.