Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I always blend in. Minimal makeup. A foundation that matches my skin tone applied thinly and evenly. When used, a lipstick that is subdued. Tasteful clothing for the occasion. I have PTSD and do not wish to be the center of attention. Letting Jamie come out several years ago was the best thing to ever happen to me. I can function out in society better than I ever could when I felt forced to be a male. My sunset years are the happiest of my life.
Hi,
As for me I stand out no matter what, being 6-3 and 260, kind of like a linebacker in drag. So it is impossible to blend in. Thus, I rarely go out, unless with other girls or on a date.
Thanks,
Ms LMM
I try to blend in. By that I mean that I don’t try to be flamboyant or look like a hooker, etc. I dress tastefully and I go to everyday places such as museums, grocery stores, malls, etc. I don’t spend my time in bars or bad neighborhoods. I’m almost always treated with respect as I am not just a woman — I’m a lady!
P.S. That’s me on the right with a friend who had known me since before I began transitioning.
Amanda,
I think you look great! Nice style and color choices!
Susan
I prefer to stand out as a strong attractive confident woman . I like bright colors and the latest fashions . To me that is a part of enjoying being a woman !
I am so relieved when I blend in as a woman. I always have , even before I began to blend in. I am super feminine by nature, and ive been told that so many times. I never get tired of.hearing that I am more feminine than masculine lol, it’s something I own, and something I would never trade.
I’m 6’6″ so I will never “blend in” and I am ok with that. I enjoy standing out! I get looks and little comments but most of the time I smile and wave and before you know it people want to take a picture with me. Ha ha oh and I’m not afraid to wear heels. I have worn 5″ before and had a picture taken with a 7’1″ guy. My girlfriend fully accepts and encourages me. She knows my dreams and supports me fully. She is such an amazing lady. We enjoy going shopping, to the beach, out to eat, to the movies, casinos and out to a few clubs.
My advice is smile and be confidant but also be smart in where you go out. Enjoy life, be yourself and always LOVE yourself. ❤️
i have always preferred to blend in but i think its the way i dress how i do my makeup my actions when im out all help me to blend in but it does take years of learning what to wear and how to act in public now i dont get challenged even when using the ladies toilets
but timing was the key for me i have being living full time now for well over 18 months documented and more than 3 years on top before i started transitioning
it wasnt always the case go back 2 years and i did stand out a lot more before i started HRT treatment and before i had my facial hair removed which made a huge differance to my own self image as well as what other people thought of me
i have even been chatted up a few times now by some lovely men one of which i have been dating for the past year
Lucille your tips have also made me the strong women i am today looking forward to my surgery which my gender doctor thinks will be early 2017
i just wish to thank you for all your hints and tips
Well, when I´m out as Marie-Christine I normally prefer to not stand out really much and better blend in in the crowd. But i want to dress as I like and so I´m often the only person wearing skirts and dresses while all the “real ladies” wear pants. I guess that I “stand out” then but I like that. When I´m shopping and talk to some salesladies they often think I dress because I have a job as a tv-artist or else. They can´t believe I´m only on rare occasions in my femme persona. I really love her looks and help when I try on dresses and often had a nice conversation afterwards. I really love the time en femme and I love nice comments from time to time.