Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I agree with Samantha: I love going out fully dressed up as the beautiful woman I am inside. I love to appear attractive to the guys, with the hope they will ask me for a date.
Well Lucille, it seams that you have hit the honey spot of “comments please” I believe that everyone wants to pass the same way that cis women want to be more beautiful, even if they already are. It is also true that there are girls that even that they do not pass as cis, are very attractive, and we all know that there are a lot of men that are strongly attracted to us, precisely because we are not cis women.
That said, my personal experience is that I enjoy both, depending of the moment. I have a few cis women friends and I love the talk the jokes and the sharing, with my trans friends there is the competition factor that is also stimulating. Most of my wardrobe is conservative (I only use the daring stuff in private) but a I like no be unnoticed when I enter a room, sometimes I even like to confront unfriendly looks with clear and strong non verbal messages, they always back off and I get my confidence from the the times that I have pass.
Attracting the looks of man is satisfactory as long as they not conduct to something else, but what I really enjoy is to attract the look of other women. Other big source of satisfaction I get, is the frequent asking about were do I get my clothes, an egotistic and very pleasurable way to reinforce my femmenity
I love going out fully dressed up as the beautiful woman I am inside. Especially around a hot looking guy who gets turned on by my presence.
I recently purchased your flat to fem program. I have discussed it with my Dr. Due to my health, she recommends that I do not use it. She also stated that HRT was not a good idea ether. I would like to receive a refund as promised in your add for that program. I have tried to get back to you through the web sites that you listed, but get no response. would you please send me my refund . Paula
My approach is two fold…
From afar, I want to blend in. This,to me, means that my profile and mannerisms are not dramatic, harsh or gauky…lending a fabric of life approach and that I would appear as any other woman.
When close up, I want to be noticed. As a lot of women know, a great deal of effort goes into a look…and on so many levels that to not be be noticed ignored the whole point and allure of feminine prowess. In this regard, I most certainly want to be noticed for my efforts.
If I can stand out as someone who tends to her image tirelessly, with attention to detail and with poise and class, than my mission is complete.
I love your look, very well put together. I noticed the lid of your cup, I always get a little thrill when I leave a little lipstick on the rim of a glass or cup as it is a visual reminder that I’m enjoying my feminine side!
Hugs!
Jenny D
Antoinette, you strike a perfect balance of blending in (as in a convincing look with great style) and standing out (as in looking drop dead gorgeous).
You go girl!!!
I try the same but fear I fall down most times on the gorgeous bit. Sometimes i’ll nail it and get hit on, other times just get funny looks lol
I clicked on “blend in”.
In a safe environment, I’d LOVE to stand out as attractive, even beautiful! In the real world, especially as one who developed with “privilege” and in a world in which women who may sometimes be “clocked” as men are in peril, “Blend in” seems safer.
I don’t want to stand out, but I don’t in the end want to be sexy
God, I Love looking a bit Slutty!! I like the looks ans smiles.
The smiles I like the most are from other women, cisgender women when I wear something white that is a bit shear that allows my areolas and nipples to show.
The men like it too and honestly I don’t believe they even wonder if I’m really a woman and I’m big & tall at 6′, but unafraid to wear 4″ heels. My Butt isn’t as big as I’ld like but there are natural curves from the years of hormones. I’m looking into butt implants.
Arm, neck, and rings jewelry plus long acrylic fingernails on my small hands give a distraction.
I may not be a Beauty Queen, but I’m by far not the Ugliest Duckling at the Prince’s Ball hehehe There are some cisgender women that could use some help in the taking care of themselves department, but they make me look good, so Thank You to each and everyone of them.
Hi Lucille, although I do not want to draw too much attention to myself I like to be seen as an attractive woman. I just want to be “one of the girls”…giggles.