Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi everyone well I guess it is a little of both. I want to blend in as a “normal” female but I want to stand out as Robyn if that makes any sense. I dont over do it but I do little things that makes mt femme self Robyn stand out while looking like a normal female walking down the street. Love and kisses Robyn
Here is a pic before makeup and before I went out.
I came out in 2010 as a y girl and slowly started the transition route, after a varied long relationship with drs shrinks and surgeons plus obligation rules of living full time working in public view the charity shop scam to see if you can handle it and the hormones. You have to be shy to blend in and be bold to stand out. I prefer to blend into the world daytimes as the world desires but on an evening I prefer stepping up to the bar to get noticed, the downside to me is all this flamming up is going to be wasted owing to a genetic issue concerning bas defrens gonads and pituary gland I will never be able to transition into a full woman I must remain Transgender. And therefore for me and many others in my situation we must blend into the world in order to create an illusion of normality
I am new to transition. I came out in September. I live as Angela except for work. (Changing careers). When I go out and it is very frequent I am Neevouse but then I relax. I find I get many juicy looks and not from because I am trans but because I am told by many I look really good or I’mm sexy and so on. I dress to pass as in as others wear. I’m loving it! So I would say I love to stand out but not too much, just enough to turn a few heads.
Your very pretty i do the same your carrying the same attitude i to your style its the real you shinning through for me i lile to go really wild when im going to a party or whatever but my normal dress is that of a 20yr girl everyday
I haven’t even been able to blend in for some years now. So I choose to embrace my differences and stand out! I have found it is fun to watch the double-takes, stumbles, and fumbles. And I get mostly positive support from the genetic girls. (Which is a huge ego booster!)
I have to wear whatever my wife puts me into so I really do not have any choice. It takes all the anxiety of “What to wear” away to have someone else dress you.
I prefer to a stand out that blends in with a wonderful group of people.
I am an older CD and have been going out for some time. too often though by myself having recently moved to a new city. BUT, going shopping for clothes and makeup has been great fun. I feel very comfortable en femme and have no issues with sales ladies helping me with selections and fitting my clothes. No issues using ladies dressing room. A recent store bra fitting was quite enjoyable.
I go to Ulta for a complete makeover when I am going out to a club for the night. The clinicians are more than happy to “Christian Dior” me!
I am transgender. I care a great deal about blending in. I want to be accepted and viewed as a woman. I would like to be able to feel normal, as it were. It is very easy for cisgender women to say they want to stand out. Transgender women don’t really have that luxury I don’t think. But those that do, more power to em. I wish to pass. I wish to blend in. For me, I just want to live a normal life as the 29 year old woman that I am. Even if I am a transsexual, I should still be able to have that. Right? The idea of standing out horrifies me and it happens enough as it is. Too much. Blending in is something that I need. Passing is something that I greatly wish for. I just don’t feel like I have the luxury of standing out being able to live a normal-ish life. I want to blend in.
Same here. I am at the age of your typical empty-nester soccer mom (mid-late40s – early 50s), and that is the way I choose to present. I do not, do NOT want to call attention to myself. So far, it’s working!
i love feeling sxy when i dress up ! Since i have nice legs (so they tell me) i put on a short skirt or dress and sit where men get a good view, it turns me on knowing that they are trying to get a panty shot!! What can i say, i like showing off !!!
For the past nine and a half of a ten year journey that changed my gender identity, I know blending in and passing has not been an issue. My features were never hard core masculine and probably bias towards androgynous having a slender frame and soft facial features. Once adjusting to HRT while simultaneously having an orchiectomy ten years ago, the energy level felt like something my body needed for years. I felt, functioned, and developed fully as a total woman at about the two year mark into the transition except for being and still remaining non-op.
My relatives, friends, and colleagues at work think I look like Fox News anchor Anna Kooiman. That said, since I am blonde and also have the required sexy legs for that network, maybe I could change professions from computer science to visual news media and become Fox News’ first transgendered news personality.