Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I most definitely want to blend in as just another woman doing her thing. I’m retired now, 72 years old and live my life pretty much 24/7 now as a woman. I love it. I’m always treated like a lady wherever I go and never have an issue with passing. Here I am the other day when I was shopping and then out to lunch with a friend.
Suzy……Exactly! We just want to be who we are and live life in society as a normal woman navigating our way through . Keep on keepin’ on.
I always dress appropriate as any woman would given the circumstances. I am now retired, 72 years old and here I am today out with a friend for lunch. I am never taken as male and love being a woman an treated as such.
At 6′ 3″ and 240 lbs., I will never blend in. Nevertheless, I usually dress on the conservative side, with shorter than expected dresses worn as tunics over slacks. My lips and earrings tend to be bolder side, resulting in many compliments.
As a Mary Kay Beauty Consultant, when I am out, which is usually every day, I dress professionally but I do stand out because of the way that I am dressed, heels, hose, makeup, skirts and tops or dresses. As of yet I have never been confronted with any adverse comments. The opposite usually happens, I receive compliments, which is always appreciated.
I’m naturally an introvert. I aspire to blend in. That doesn’t mean that I want to be so passable that everyone thinks I’m cis, but I don’t want to be the center of attention for the wrong reasons. I don’t want to be “that dude in a dress” and I don’t want my neckline or hemline to give whiplash to passers by or look like a clown did my makeup.
omg janet! i hear you girl!
For me, it’s more about confidence. When I first started going out enfemne, my heart would be pounding and I was afraid to make eye contact with anyone. But, as I got better with My make-up, how I asked, talked and of course dressed my confidence went through the roof. I’ve been living as my true-self for over 2 years now and have no problems blending in. I feel especially beautiful when I catch the eye of someone when they’re with their partner! Hehe!
I just like to fit in and get lots of nice comments the way i dress.
Dear Amberjane,
You say you fit in, but your picture is outstanding. My compliments
Thank you Erika i am just a t girl from the south in the uk.
I believe it is possible to blend in and stand out at the same time. First, wear what blends in for what you are doing. Then, with one or two of the right accessories you can be noticed without being overdressed. It’s nice when a man opens a door for you or gives you a compliment but when another woman compliments you, you’re
doing it right. And remember, the best accessory is a smile.