Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I prefer to blend in as a woman and be accepted by everyone as a cis woman but I still like to dress as sexily as I possibly can whilst feeling as comfortable as I can, in the surroundings that I find myself in.
I certainly don’t want everyone staring at me whilst I do want people thinking, “that is one sexy woman!”. (I don’t want them thinking, “that is one sexy trans woman!”)
Because of this catch 22 situation, I have chosen not to vote!
I believe there is a fine line between blending in and standing out. Yes as women I believe we want to be noticed but we want to be noticed for the right reasons. Because we look hot, because we’re beautiful, because we look killer in that dress! I personally don’t feel we want to stand out due to negative attention where people are staring you down trying to figure out “what” you are.
I usually stand out specifically to to my height and my love of shoes but I struck my stuff with confidence and everybody loves my hugs
That being said, I encourage and embrace everybody to be their authentic selves, however, I do not feel that cross dressers and transgender persons should be lumped into the same category as we are 2 completely different individuals. Cross dressers are individuals that like to dress up in the opposite gender’s clothing, transgender persons are individuals born the wrong gender without choice and for many of us it is a very serious matter to be acknowledged as the gender we are, for many of us it is a struggle, a long legal process that is not necessarily a game and part time gig.
Which is most likely why the majority of us desire to blend in. It’s very insulting to have to go somewhere such as a bathroom and prove you are female. Most cis-females I know would be absolutely infuriated at the notion of having show their ID to prove they are who they are.
I would like to thank Lucinda For all her work as a lot of it did help me early in my transition but I do have to say I am not very comfortable being lumped into the same categories, as one is a serious life matter and the other is a lifestyle. Specifically because it confuses society on a whole… Is that a man just having fun for the night or is that an actual woman that feels she belongs in the women’s bathroom?
It’s a dangerous world out there and with dozens of transgender individuals being killed annually, I don’t think we need more confusion.
I don’t want to seem to sound acrimonious, but even as a transsexual woman, I believe crossdressers are valid transgender folks. They are definitely on the spectrum, with needs of their own which are strong and are only denied with harmful consequences. If you are referring to some who dress inappropriately for effect, that may be a valid concern, but that’s still their business. I hope I’m not coming across as bitchy…
Hi y’all!
I LUV to stand out, as I am not really passable and when I step out – I am lookin’ to put out honey!! Usually, it’s the younger or older men who cum sniffin’, and I do not disappoint!!
Luv dressin’ for my men!
Paula
It just depend. By myself I just stand out . But with other girls I like to blend in .
I voted to blend in but I really think that the real issue is confidence. Once you are confident enough to go out en femme without any worries you can turn your focus to being more individualistic. However you must be confident enough to manage the risk that some of the attention you attract may be unwelcome.
This is all about what you are comfortable with, I have a mental switch and when my head says en femme, that’s how I dress and behave.
Love Wendy
I , of course want to stand out. I am a woman. Why not stand out as one . We transgender women should. All natural born women do why not us
I was one to blend in, but now I would prefer to stand out somewhat and in a glamorous way. Although I can understand why others would prefer not too, many of us start out closeted and that feeling can linger until you transition. This blog was interesting, thanks Lucille.
Good god girl, you’d definitely stand out to me…you’re beautiful! I look like Quasimodo compared to you.
I love to stand out! As a Pre-OP transgender M2F. I love when people comment on my style or excetera. You have to be strong
Blending is much better than pointing a finger saying look at me…jme…just my thoughts and I too am transgender