Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Definitely blend in.I go to Wal Mart quite a bit and am always. Wearing my girlie clothes.And a lot of times no makeup.And I still get comments like ,excuse me ma’am.
I try to blend but lately I just dress my style and let it ride
Yes, just stand out. It is obvious being a cross dresser, so make the most of it. It usually gets appreciated by onlookers x
I always liked attention so super cute clothes and wedges or sling back sandal get the looks, then your neighbor tells his guest that’s a guy, “NO WAY” . It makes me feel better..lol…heehee
I want to blend in and just be another person in the crowd. Having said that, I LOVE wearing high heels (4+” stilettos). I don’t get the opportunity to go out much, so in my mind I have to wear these high spike heels to feel sexy. Unfortunately, I am 6 feet tall, so with heels this high it kind of makes me stand out, which is what I don’t want. Quite the conundrum.
Just for the fun of it, here is another photo of me at my favorite mall!
Hi all – I definitely try to blend in as any natural woman out there. Now that I’m retired, I live my life pretty much 24/7 as a woman. I just try to dress appropriate for my age (I’m in my early seventies) and behave as a lady. I get complements from other women on my clothes and makeup, so I think I am accepted as a female. I love it! Here I am the other day out shopping.
Most transwomen stand out to begin with. It’s harder to blend in. I’m really not into drawing attention to myself. It makes me feel too self conscious and then anxiety soon follows. I have noticed that the more comfortable I feel, the more comfortable people are around me and vice versa. Blending in doesn’t mean you can’t look attractive and you don’t have to try to be unique to stand out because you’re already standing out because you are unique.
Well said Morgan. That is exactly how I feel about it. I mostly feel confident in going out en femme, but I have no need to attract more attention than the obvious. I take my pride in people not paying much attention, even though I don’t pass too well. I found that the more confidence I emanate, the fewer odd looks I attract; a double win!