Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I want it both ways. When I’m out as a normal woman. Shopping or going kayaking with a group I want to blend in. But when I’m out in the evening dolled up at a club or out to dinner I want to stand out. Especially if I’m looking to meet a guy. Terri
I like to blend in, I am not one of those ladies that like to draw a attention to ones self.
As you can see, I am a jumper sort of girl, very proud of my bust as many females are.
Was thinking of going bigger but then that would be drawing more attention upon myself, so I think I blend in with just the right size and shape that gives me that feminine look and feel, which is rather comfortable. Please feed back any comments I would love to hear
Hello Lucille: I have been to Europe and many places in the US and have felt perfectly comfortable blending in. I was a “man” for so long that now is difficult not to look like one. As time goes by I have learn to just be myself and enjoy my femininity without the need to be a passable woman. Me being a woman is totally in my mind as it is, now, not to be a man. It has taken time but who cares, I don’t anymore. I have seen out and about other women just like me and it makes me happy. A big “you go girl” goes out to them every time I see one.
Ive always wanted to blend in but my problem is with my hair and my face i get stupid remarks about being wether im male or female i just pretend im deaf
Lucille,
Once again you challenge me with your statement, “I believe it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out”. My strongest desire is to be as feminine in public as possible. I agree with Connie, about being attractive with style and dignity. It has been my experience as Barbara, that in our culture, style and dignity make you “stand out”. Dress you age, be confident and always wear a smile.
Have fun
Barbara Jane
When I discovered that my feminine side wanted to be set free, I had to figure out and decide how I wanted to present myself. Presenting as a Drag Queen, definitely was never going to be the style. I felt that it would be better that I could blend in and as time moved forward, I could then slowly express myself.
Since my transformation (8 years), I have become more comfortable in my new life, I will never revert back to who I use to be.
I want to please myself. If I am happy with me then I feel do both. Fit in and attract. Being five foot eight with a smaller frame has always given me a nice advantage.
I always want to blend in– but also want to be seen as an attractive lady who dresses with style and dignity
I try to stand out as much as possible. As transgender we are still freaks in the eyes of the public. If I get noticed I can chat to people let them know we are just ” normal ” human beings in the wrong body. Here in the UK I do as much as I can to try and educate the public.