Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I’m always well dressed in public, classic lady style in a nice dress or skirt and blouse. Despite being 6’4″ I attract little attention. Gentlemen hold the door for me and offer to put heavy packs of bottled water on my shopping cart at Costco and I thank them in a soft voice. However, as a leader in the trans community for the last 8 years I want people to know there’s a trans person among them for visibility sake, that we’re here and there’s nothing to worry about. Visibility leads to acceptance and public acceptance is the key to a better life for us all. So when people ask me how I’m doing I usually say, “Absolutely trantastic, thank you.” They get it and often laugh but then they know they’re talking to a trans person, no questions asked.
I would like to blend in but not as a nothing but as a woman that feels confident as a person in their own right. If this means standing out I would say you are always different whatever you do. No 2 people or more are the same. Rach has their own individuality and it is thos that meakes them important. So don’t feel unimportant feel that you are just showing what you are and let others be accepted the same way. Be accepting and not critical as this accepting makes you “stand out” among a loy of naysayers.
I don’t feel that the question of whether or not to blend in or stand out is really the only issue. Sure we get the “giggles ” when we get the “Wow” or the “Uh-hu” comments. But it’s more about how we feel about ourselves. About everything it took to look the way we do and what effort we put into how we look and who we really are. Sure we sometimes like to put the, “polish” on the apple… But that comes from inside each of us.
I love being Sexy—when (on rare occasions) I get hit on–I’m walking on air for a week—
About Blending in,… if I am in the Mall I want to Blend in. Jeans, Sneakers or Sandals….never Heels in the Mall.
The best Advice given to me was sit in the Mall Food Court, with a Coffee( I was in Guy Mode) and watch what women wear…they don’t wear Heels unless late in the day stopping on the way home from work, some women had their Business Suit with sneakers at the end of the work day in the Mall.
I once saw a young Tgurl at the King of Prussia Mall in Pennsylvania wearing Fishnet Stockings, Thigh High Boots and Hot Pant, …..the street corner Hooker look.
I have Black Thigh High Boots but wear them with Jeans and a Sweater and nice wool overcoat, but some how it doesn’t look Whoreish.
A nice restaurant, nice clothes.
If going to a Nightclub I wear Clubbing Clothes.
I try to Blend in to the situation
I will admit when I first went out I was just concerned about blending in, but my greatest moment was when I was approached by a man who started,well I guess the only way of putting it, hitting on me. I was so delighted that I looked that good. I always try to do my makeup well without going “over the top” but I do like to look good, enough so, that men pay attention.
This a very intriguing topic, and for me I want to stand out as the feminine flower I am. As with anything in life, you need to be realistic and girl if you have it flaunt it. If you set the bar to blend, your telling yourself from the start your not as feminine as GG. We all work hard to achieve our inner female self and our outer gorgeous self.
If you have the ability to flaunt it, own your stage.
Hugs & Kisses
Sami
This a very intriguing topic, and for me I want to stand out as the feminine flower I am. As with anything in life, you need to be realistic and girl if you have it flaunt it. If you set the bar to blend, your telling yourself from the start your not as feminine as GG. We all work hard to achieve our inner female self and our outer gorgeous self.
If you have the ability to flaunt it, own your stage.
Hugs & Kisses
Sami
Completely Agreed with you. after some thought, this gave me a lot to think about. To blend or stand out is more like neither. I simply just wanted to be myself the best I can. If I do happenly stand out it’s in the window of someone’s eyes but not in every window of everyone. For some, it’s ey’ hey Ms, she, her, mam, lady, girl, bitch, babe, hotty, etc. well I think u got the gist. So with all that, I’m more happy just be me it’s more simple than try to be born with expectation of others think u should be that u r not. Only u know urself. If they don’t like ur real self then they have problem not mines is how I felt.