Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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YES!
Not sure why this is right here…..where I posted it it made sense.
I love to stand out. I put a lot of work and time in becoming a beautiful woman. It’s all about self confidence. The moment I step out the door I’m happy with myself.
It’s all about enjoying my life appreciating my two genders.
I am very comfortable with myself it’s this that makes all work.
Besides at 70 I know I look better than most biological woman 20 to 25 years younger than me!
Enjoy being yourself life is too short
Luv AmberB
Well I enjoy standing out! I know I look great it takes a lot of work.
I’m happy as Amber and live in a community where folks are very supportive.
Anyway at 70 I definitely look more beautiful than cis woman in Their late forty’s or fifties.
All you need is Confidence in yourself enjoying the fem part of yourself!!!
Luv Amber
HFMH Amber, My spirit is 100% in agreement with you, but my abilities …well, let’s just say they are not matching my Spirit. If you’re close by, maybe we could get together. I’d love that xox Collette
We-l-l-l, now that you’ve put me on the spot, I confess. I’m a stand-outer. When I think I should blend in with the other old ladies, I look around and say “Look like THEM?” I’m not dissing old folks; after all, I’m in the club, too. But so many elders look like they just don’t care. Like they’ve retired from caring about how they appear. There are some older women who look wonderful, presented in a degree of fabulous well beyond my goals. They are my role models when I want to dress old. But of course, they STAND OUT.
On the other hand, I’m not always dressing old. Not too pathetically ridiculous, I hope, but more in a fun style. My feedback has been good, so I’m a-stickin’ with it. And there I’m standing out some again.
And occasionally, it’s fun to costume up a bit. No way to blend in then.
So, I say, if you can pull it off, stand out. Unless you’re a spy…
I personally prefer to blend in when I go shopping or do other daily things and stand out when I go out evenings.
Because I spend so much time, energy, effort and pure desire to look great and feel great as a woman, of course I want to be seen. Just maybe not under a spotlight on stage.
Hi Lucille, just blending in is like (going along to get along) me personally I most definitely want to stand out and be seen.i will even make it a point when driving around to go where there’s plenty of people. I’ll take a drive on a weekend to a park because it’s the busiest times.its all about standing out. I love looking,acting,and feeling completly feminine..I think anyone that just wants to blend in is missing the full experience of being a girl in public..Just knowing that men and women are looking at me is a beautiful feeling..I make it a point to go out 2-3 times a week during the day to be seen and make myself completly obvious and Stand out…love Cristina
There are times I just want to blend in, but also times I want to stand out as long as I’m standing out for all the right reasons.