Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I’ve started taking the herbs and nurse care for me cuz no one knows in the situation I am no one can know but I want to feel something I feel dead inside for so long by work trying to work towards this goal feminize myself the way I’ve always felt maybe a chance but I am alone I’m more alone now than ever and why do I feel ashamed scared more scared of this than anything else I’ve ever done in my world life could destroy what little I have.
Oh Sweetie! I know exactly how you are feeling! I am in about the exact same situation! I would love to hear from girls like us that have been at this crossroad!!
Dawn
After working, for a while, on practicing these changes in body language I have found it to work different muscles than masculine body language.
I would be curious to hear thoughts as to practicing a change body language in addition to the bombshell workout, (Which is fabulous, by the way.) And the changes others notice.
Viv
Thanks Lucille,
I love your tips. I am tall at 6 feet one inch so I do not exactly disappear
in a crowd of women. If I have to stand out as a woman,I may as well stand out big. lol You are right about women showing that S curve with
the hand on their hip. They look so sexy when they do that,because that
curve pops right out. I don’t have the curves and I sure would like to look more curvy.
I know I’ll get there I’m just out of practice for sure I know she’s still in there she shows herself more than I’m aware I’m sure I’ll soon be spending more time if not most of my time en femme when I get back on my own I’m determined to bring the girl in me back out I’m tired of trying to play the man I love the girl I am inside and its time I let her strut her stuff again
Firzt let me say that blogs like this are fantastic help to a gurl starting out. When my gf and I are out in a club somewhere, apparently, if im talking to someone I make lil twizzles in my hair with my index finger, widen my eyes and move my weight from one hip to the other in 6″ heels, wiggling my bottom as I do.
She says i look a total girly flirt. I’m not aware of this at all, I’ve noticed I’ve developed a lil girly giggle though.
I learnt a long time ago, you must put away all masculinity, and truly believe in the feminine inner you and let her out to enjoy your altered sexuality, the more i believe in myself as a sexy women the more a sexy woman i become.
I agree, Susan, it is very tricky. But it’s also SUPER important. There are lots of tips and tricks to improving your body language, and the whole thing can get confusing and overwhelming, so here’s my advice. Start with these two crucial, very helpful, and surprisingly easy tips, and you might find everything else starts to fall in line from there. What two tips? 1. Keep your shoulders BACK and don’t swing them when you walk. Remember that women do want their breasts to be seen, but they don’t want them to flop or wiggle. 2. Keep your knees together. This makes you rotate your hips for a feminine walk. A woman friend told me that I should always remember to do this because women are always “protecting” what’s in between (and a little higher up).
I am finding woman body language very difficult to practice. I am doing my best, but I feel I am still not convicing at all.
Can I give you advice? Take smaller strides placing one foot in front of the other, this will give you that feminine hip sway. The rest will follow.
I think you have a wonderful Body,that very classy looking.Your stance in the top picture is great…your being way to hard on yourself.Your so cute…
i had to be dad and mam in one to raise my daughters my ex partner left me about 3,5 years ago and here and my daughters deside to stay with me and i got full guardianship, still are, and above that i had to be full time man for my family i was a handy man and now i em a handy woman , it took years till they finaly accept me , but now my Parents are not there anymore, i em myself, i had my srs in 2012 ,my vocal’s and adamsappel in 2011 and in 2013 a vagina corection becourse the plastic surgeon made a mess of it all, and my vocals again in june 25 , 2014 , my voice is a mess very hard to learn , have a realy good logopedist / speechtherapist ,her name is Simone Duits, over here in the Netherlands , as a man my nature i was a hetero man and now a lesbian woman i will keep it short , this is a little tip of the live i lived and still live in right now , take care be save , wish you all a beautifull and healthy live , be your self inside and outside know matter what age you are or feeling i em 55 now
Ciska:
What a story…such CHALLENGES!
You are one determined lady…and you look Marvelous! At 55 you’ve got a whole life that you always wanted, ahead.
At 73, I will tell you it is all worth all your efforts, especially with the kids. Keep up the good work!
Pics for your evaluation…ENJOY BEING YOU! T.J.
Nice story, sorry for the less than standard surgeons you were subjected to. You story and mine (other than the errant surgeries) are similar. I too identify sexually as a lesbian and had obligations to accomplish first before I was able become who I am.