It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Some names feel like a perfect fit from the start, while others never quite resonate with us.
However, crossdressers and transgender women have the unique opportunity to choose their own feminine names.
Every great MTF name has a story behind it, and I’d love to hear YOURS.
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please tell us your story in the comments below, and if you can, share a photo too. It’s always lovely to put a face to a name!
Love,
Lucille
In my case it’s all down to the registration of my car. The car has personalised vehicle registration with my initials as the first two letters. I didn’t want to change the registration so it meant changing my Christian name to a female name beginning with the letter W. There aren’t a lot and I wanted something short so I very quickly ruled out Wilhelmina, ruled out Wendy because I already know three other females called Wendy, and after careful thought for a few weeks came up with Wanda. It’s short and sweet and already in the public domain because of the film “A Fish Called Wanda” and an actress from when I was younger called Wanda Ventham. So, QED, I became Wanda.
This sounds worse than it is.
In 2018 I checked into a hospital for severe depression. Well, they instead elected to treat me for alcoholism and “marijuana dependency, uncomplicated.”
It was a rough time in my life. Well, I arrive at a mental health/drug detox unit(awful idea btw. One of the very fortunate casualties of covid) and immediately start getting to know the other people here. Well, there was this one woman who made a hell of an impression: She started backing her ass into me during med time. I think we’d had maybe one conversation by then. That was Bianca, or at least that’s the name she gave me.
Well, I shared my story with her and she shared hers with me. She helped snap me out of dysfunctional thinking and I never got to really thank her for it.
That’s where my name comes from. The only thing I have to remember the strongest woman I ever met who helped me become a better… everything. Everything about my life is better and I attribute that to her teaching me that somebody’s always got it worse and yet they can still do better.
I hope I can meet her one more time.
I chose to make this my name Belinda Gail for personal reasons. This was to be my daughters name that didnt come to be. This is a name that was to be and is now thru me and I love it. To me it rolls off the tongue smoothly.
I choose Karen as my name for a few reasons (My dead name also started with a “K”):
1) I have three daughters each with their name starting with the letter “K”. My wife chose their names to connect them to me. I didn’t ’t want To lose that special connection.
2) I knew two women when I was much younger who were amazing women. Also, when I was 8 (and began to realize that I wasn’t supposed to be a boy) the most popular girls’ name was Karen.
3) The name, in some cultures is a female name. In others, a male name.
4) “Karen” has a meaning of “pure”. It just fit into my desire to help others be real, genuine and authentic.
I had to have an appropriate first name when I first started going to TG meets. I did think long and hard about it and am still extremely pleased with my original choice. I decided upon “Lucy” as it seemed (to me at least) to be a very girly name that is a complete break from my male identity, and for others would be easy to hear and to spell. For me “Lucy” makes me feel as girly as I can imagine. I am presently in the midst of deciding on an equally feminine surname
I chose Sarah as my name because I feel it represents femininity, beauty and female empowerment in one.
25 yrs ago, my CD penpal (who I later met in person), suggested “Misha” for my name. I liked it but thought it sounded too oriental for me. Then she suggested ‘Michelle’. I used it for about 5 years, and I moved to a new neighborhood and it seemed everyone around me knew me by that name, even in drab. It felt good. Then I moved to another state and decided to use a better name. I chose the name ‘Colleen’, a name of a girl-next-door where I grew up. But that sort of back-fired as people quickly assumed I was Irish. I held onto that name for about 4 years, and moved again to another part of the state. I chose my current name after doing some internet search for a name used for both male and female in Europe and the middle east. However it sounds rather feminine to most people. For those who question the pronunciation, it rhymes with ‘Karen’.
I’m still early in my journey so i have not chosen one yet and i honestly don’t know how