Have you ever felt misunderstood?
Sadly, there’s a lot of ignorance out there! That’s why in this blog post, I want to debunk common myths about crossdressers and transgender women.
Let’s start with one of the biggest misconceptions that’s unfortunately still hanging around:
Myth: Transgender women, crossdressers, and drag queens are all the same.
While all these are valid ways of expressing one’s gender, they represent distinct groups, and it’s important not to use these terms interchangeably.
To clarify, here’s how the GLAAD Media Reference Guide defines some common transgender terms:
- Transgender women – People who were assigned male at birth but who identify as women. Many transgender women are prescribed hormones or undergo surgery, but transgender identity is not dependent upon medical procedures.
- Crossdressers – Men, typically heterosexual men, who occasionally wear clothes, makeup, and accessories associated with women. This activity is a form of gender expression and is not done for entertainment purposes. Crossdressers do not wish to permanently change their sex or live full-time as women.
- Drag queens – Men, typically gay men, who dress like women for the purpose of entertainment.
- Gender non-conforming – A term used to describe some people whose gender expression is different from conventional expectations of masculinity and femininity. The term is not a synonym for transgender or transsexual and should only be used if someone self-identifies as gender non-conforming.
- Non-binary and/or genderqueer – Terms used by some people who experience their gender identity and/or gender expression as falling outside the categories of male and female. The term is not a synonym for transgender and should only be used if someone self-identifies as non-binary and/or genderqueer.
Now that the record has been set straight, let’s look at some of the most common myths about crossdressers and transgender women.
7 Myths About Transgender Women
- Being transgender is a choice.
- Transgender people are gay.
- Transgender women aren’t “real” women.
- Your sex is defined by your chromosomes and/or hormones.
- You have to have surgery to be a “real” transgender person.
- You aren’t transgender until you start hormone therapy.
- Kids and teens are too young to know if they’re really transgender.
7 Myths About Crossdressers
- Crossdressers are gay.
- Crossdressers are perverts.
- Crossdressing is a psychological problem.
- Crossdressing can be cured.
- Crossdressers want to change their sex.
- Crossdressing is a destructive addiction.
- Crossdressers can’t be good husbands or fathers.
Have you heard any of these myths before? They’re frustrating and hurtful, aren’t they? It’s time for the world to wake up and realize this truth:
Your gender is who you are on the inside. There are countless ways to express your gender, and all are completely valid!
To help spread this truth, check out these excellent resources from GLAAD below. They’re a great way to increase awareness about transgender issues.
Recommended Resources from GLAAD
Now let’s hear from you…
What’s the truth that YOU’D like to set straight? Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hello everyone! I feel after researching for so long…I am genderfluid and bisexual, but genderfluid is the one that I was looking for. It wasn’t for anyone else but I had to put a label with it, but of course when you do that you run the risk of not wanting to. Other than genderfluid or crossdresser, transvestite out of them all by definition…that was a hard one to swallow. If anyone asks im simply me! One other thing tho I did want to bring up…Im married to the most gorgeous woman who is loving and accepting of who I am and truly loves me for me. I love sharing this whole new journey with her someone else that wants to join me just as bad as i want to start! Through my own experience, I am truly happy and with my decision to ask her to join me…because she said yes and well Ive read some stories and it breaks my heart.
Oh no! A biological male in the women’s locker room! Run, run for your lives!! The uncontrollable “thing” may suddenly attack without notice!
No Sweetie, I was always to scared. I might get dirty looks in a womens locker room (I have only used the one that I was pre-approved for). Please don’t put your safety in danger. I would drive home clean up then drive right back to where I was just because it is scary honey.
*hugs*
❤️️♀️
Patti
Sweetie,
I just recently purchased a luxury condo, I got it in writing that I was able to use the womens locker room. I use to drive home all nasty, really inconvenient if you have other things to do. So far some bad vibes and some very excepting women (motives unknown). I hope you don’t mine but I will pray for you Morgan. *hugs* ❤️️
Sincerely Much Love,
Patti
So….I should use the men’s locker room?
I am a 72 year old wife of a crossdresser. We have been married for 44 years. I did not know until after marriage. There is nothing wrong with the crossdressing itself. For me however, it consumed my mate so much that my desires were largely neglected. Even when he tried, it seemed mechanical rather than passionate unless the attention was on him. The other thing I experienced is that he expected me to take on both the domestic role and a lot of the physical work. He would choose his chores and I had to pick up the slack with everything else. Now he has physical issues that give him legit reasons to not do those things. It has been a long painful road. I have never felt like an appreciated, honored, and beloved woman.
I appreciate you for what you shared here and I am sorry for the ignorance were there in your story which made your husband to not give u what you wanted.
tbh, i needed to hear this story, although i noticed few years ago that i am not going to be a husband, i mean i can’t, and if i neglect who i am, i will make people suffer,
your story showed me today that logic in real.