Stepping out into the word as your female self can be incredibly empowering. It’s powerful validation for crossdressers and transgender women alike.
In this blog post, I want to dive into this topic and hear about your own experiences. How often do you present yourself as a woman in public?
Do you live as a woman full time? Do you crossdress regularly or on occasion? Or is the answer, sadly, “never”?
Please take my transgender / crossdressing survey and share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hello Everyone!
I found Lucille’s Sorella’s FEMME SECRETS as very great website and there are a lot of good things and great advices!
I am straight woman, but I have Transgender friends, who knows me as person who is open minded, naturally understanding and connected to each TG TS CD etc. person who would need any support, help and understanding, I am in several sites and always ready to help and give advice.
Also I am learning and getting more information myself, which helps helping my T-Friends.
If here anyone would love to get in touch with me, please write to my email: sally.richardson3@aol.co.uk.
All the kind regards,
Linda
I pretty much live as a woman , but i am having one problem.. I need a job and it seems like employers don’t want to hire any trans girls, no matter how well you pull it off or how qualified you may be for the position you are being interviewed for. once they do the back ground check that’s it .. like they shut you right off. Now what…….do I go back to my male persona and buy male clothes to accommodate the job?? I would hate to put the skirt and heels away, or better yet put my life away and be some one im not ! I have been looking for work for 4 months. Feel free to email me with any ideas.
Stephanni
Hi. dMy suggestion simply is “MOVE HERE!” I don’t know where you are, but in California and especially San Francisco, there are even laws on the books to help you professionally, socially, and in general. You will also get much more personal interface support in all three levels. Most of these laws are not brand new either, and the attitudes are much older. I had lunch with a transgendered young lady in SF who had the front desk receptionist position in a prominent place in the City–maybe 15 years ago!! Living costs will probably be higher but so are the wages.
Let me know if you want info.
Take Care,
“Donna”
Hi Stephanni.
Sorry to hear about your dilemma, but I truly understand, I have been androgynous all of my life,and it’s been easy to pull it off either way M or F, unfortunately we live in a world of closed minds in regards to people like us needing to express our fem side, we have to live with that and we have to accept what our western culture has in store for us that being non-acceptance, in most places.
I have learned to curve that by being more discrete but yet satisfy my self, I wear cami tops, panties, woman’s jeans and or slacks, all of the time,woman’s shoes because I have very narrow feet and androgynous shirts, no one has ever made a comment or even notice me, though I have long wavy hair and wear some neutral lipstick, it’s an easy thing to do without drawing a lot of attention, of course at home I wear skirts and dresses, way less restrictive.
At least you can still be fem, within, and get by, we can’t change the world or the way people think, that sucks.
Be happy and love who you are.
i am living as a female almost, all the time. my initial fear and uncomfortable feeling to go out and mingle with other women and men as a female all disappeared once i started reading Lucille’s tips and following them diligently. Today i can go to any place… be it a mall, a cinema theater, railway station… be it any place…confidentially as a beautiful and elegant woman who is also gorgeous. No one ever suspected that i was born as a boy. i am still a boy. but to the onlookers and those who come close to me to move with me… i am i total natural woman.
Thanks my dear Lucille, without your guidance i could have never achieved this status as the most beautiful and likable woman around.
You are right you are beautiful indeed. (And I am a bi man.)
I have struggled for years to build the courage to go out as a women, but then got the opportunity to have a dress made for me and so went to the appointment dressed (without a wig) and seemed to be so well accepted, so ordered another dress only this time used a very pretty wig and so my confidence is at an all time high. Just loved spending the girly time with the dressmaker and having to get changed in-front of her with my fabulous lingerie…..yay. It has become an expensive exercise. Hugs and kisses Elaine xoxoxo
Hi everybody,
As much of a girl i am on the inside, my outside just cannot be made to bend. Being in my 50’s now, i have learned to just accept it. If i had known about Lucille and all of you when i was in my teens i would have put a stop to puberty and forced my outside to match my inside. As it is, i am still pretty happy to be able to express myself, my inside, in ways that are really atypical of the generally anticipated male persona. i cry at things sad and beautiful. i am empathetic to a fault. i love fashion and chic flicks and children and old people. Oh, and i just adore having something soft and silky against my skin. hugs and kisses
I occasionally brave the world outside my home but am very careful about the time (evening) and the setting. I may dash into a store or take a walk but I am clearly a man in a dress and am afraid of being giggled at or worse! I do wear some feminine things every day of my life and my wife is very accepting of that. I am always shaved smooth from my eyebrows to my toes, powdered and perfumed, usually with a pretty floral like Tresor or Flowerbomb. I wear face powder, blush and a touch of mascara daily and use Secret deodorant. Sometimes just a touch of lipstick if I feek daring! I always wear panties and women’s hosiery and often a bra and camisole under clothes that could pass for male but are purchased from women’s shops (slacks, loafers,sandals, sweaters) or sometimes lingerie and stockings under just regular men’s clothing and suits. Thank you for having a wonderful site like this!
Hugs,
Jennifer
I really like your articles and being transgendered you have been really helpful Lucille, please keep up the good work ,girlfriend
I agree with Holly, you are fantastic!.
Oh my! You are stunning!
One of the best days of my life, was the day I decided to bury Bob and allow Bobbi to emerge. That was some 2 and half years ago. Not everyday has been easy, and there have even been a few that really made me question the validity of my decision.
As you have guessed, yes, I live, work and play 24/7 as the female I was so meant to be. Since the burial day I do not have one piece of male clothing, it was all given to the local thrift shop.
The transition has been long and in some areas slow to learn and there are some areas that I am still trying to perfect. To the best of my knowledge I am readily accepted by all of my nursing co-workers. At least if anyone knows anything and/or suspects anything they are not confronting me with it.
The mix and match of clothing has been easy. Since HRT, my boobs are real and getting to be an extra full “C” cup. I use very little makeup outside of eyeliner, a little mascara and my lip gloss. I am letting my hair grow and is now below the top of my shoulders and is platinium blonde in color.
I have been very fortunate with everybody I have had to deal with in achieving total document change. Once I get my passport back, all documents will reflect the correct name, but most importantly the gender maker of “F”. I am enjoying life now.
I am looking for some advise and/or suggestions however. I have taken several treatments of lazer and electrolysis for hair removal on my arms and face. The arm hair has gotten lighter but is still there. Very little has changed with the facial hair except it seems like it has gotten darker. I/We have tried just about everything. Right now I am shaving 3 0r 4 times each day. I am open to any and all suggestions. That is my biggest area of concentration now.
My pic is a little outdated so when I get a few minutes of down time I will have a series taken and put them on here.
My words of encouragement!! Find the courage to step out and always look forward, and remember, what is behind you is behind you. Live and enjoy life as the woman you have always been meant to be.
Here’s wishing you much success and a new found happiness. I love you all. Bobbi Jo.
This would not be complete if I didn’t continue to thank Lucille for all of guidance and advise that she has and continues to provide. Thank you Lucille, You are truly appreciated.
Sorry for this post being as long as it is. Thank You, Bobbi Jo