Stepping out into the word as your female self can be incredibly empowering. It’s powerful validation for crossdressers and transgender women alike.
In this blog post, I want to dive into this topic and hear about your own experiences. How often do you present yourself as a woman in public?
Do you live as a woman full time? Do you crossdress regularly or on occasion? Or is the answer, sadly, “never”?
Please take my transgender / crossdressing survey and share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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It’s funny how things go, in June of this year I turned 59 and until Dec. 2012 had never gone out as a woman. However in December I shaved my legs, arms and some of my chest, bought a wig, and played around with the wife’s makeup. Then on New Years eve I went out for while, went shopping and had dinner at Panera Bread (not busy). It was a wonderful experience, that week I went out a couple more times as my wife was on vacation. Since then I have only been out a couple more times as it is harder with the wife home. My last time out I actually went on a Sunday to Sephora and had a makeover, they new I was a cross dresser/ transgender. Yet Kat treated me so nice and made the experience special. When she finished I left feeling so pretty and every much a woman as I walked about the mall. Not sure when the opportunity will come up again but hopefully soon. I also live in a residential neighborhood and trying to drive out in itself was scary. Not sure want changed in December but WOW.
Robin
Hi Robin,
What changed for you was the chemical high that you got by dressing and going out. It is as potent as if you had a hit of cocaine. It is habit forming and the more you dress the bigger the high and the more you want, until you decide that dressing full time is the ultimate conclusion. However, you soon start thinking of the surgery solution and it builds and builds in your mind until you decide to go for it.
Be careful. You have started on a long, slippery, very enjoyable slope until you come out to your wife. That could be a brick wall or small speed bump, depending how she takes it. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
Best of luck girl on your coming journey. I know you will love it.
Cheryl
Cheryl, you are right in your comments Robin. Having just gone out for the first time recently after a lifetime of dressing on and off I loved it in public.
But I understand Robin’s concern about losing his grandson, my only concern is losing my grown son whom I have a great relationship with and he still lives at home.
Best of everything and luck to both of you! Donna in SF.
Cheryl, you are right. The more I dressed the more I wanted it, actually was some want scary. It even occur to me about going on vacation to JML Transformation to help in refining my look and becoming a better female. Had to say to myself to slow down, have a beautiful wife and family plus a great grandson that I do not wish to lose.
I go out whenever I have the chance. I am married and although my wife knows about my dressing she does not approve and always gives me a hard time. Arguments happen about every two weeks on the subject with the same accusations every time. I would dress full time if I could. Fortunately we have many places to go in the Denver area with a large group that meets regularly. I am much more relaxed when I am dressed and have gotten used to shopping in a select few stores when dressed. If my wife divorces me as she constantly threatens I will dress full time.
Cheryl
Cheryl
I’m so glad we live in Denver, a community that seems to be very accepting of TG, gays, bi, etc as witnessed by the hundreds of thousands on the streets cheering at the gay pride parade….Dana
I now dress and live as a female. Since I retired from my job, and since I also moved to a new area, I now do not have to worry about anyone giving me any flack as a transgender. All my neighbors know me as Veronnica or ronnie and it is so nice to just be myself. It is also nice to have my regular boy friends come over without any wondering eyes from neighbors. One of my new neighbors is a widowed man who has also been asking me out. We shall see. I so love just sitting out on my patio as Veronnica, life is now so sweet.
Veronnica/ronnie
I wear some woman’s items, style my hair as a woman, pluck my eyebrows, wear underclothes and am also hormonally balanced as a woman. I have size B/C breasts but as a corporate senior manager I would be perceived as metrosexual. I am happy that most people may see me as gay but really I am heterosexual (in a mixed sort of way). I may confuse others but not myself. I was a stealth transexual since childhood. I am so much happier since I ‘came out’.
To quote Jeff Foxworthy, “well, I usedtacould.” I dressed femme and went out a lot in my late 20’s then put all my female stuff away. Until recently, that is! I am letting my hair grown out (just enough for a cute, femme short razor cut) and have started my shoe collection again. I have always enjoyed lotions and lace but (as many other girls here said) it’s difficult to find acceptance in both one’s self and others. I am working on getting fearless again so I will be out there (literally and figuratively) soon!
I dress pretty much 24/7, only time I don’t is seeing my family or Doctor. Y es I go out dressed, and I must say I have never had a problem, maybe because living in London, England no one cares. I also go on holiday dressed and again no problems, except I was entering my holtel on one occasion, when a gentleman opened the front door for me, I thanked him, but as I passed him he gave a little pat on my posterior!
Omg! He did? How naughty!
My first time out in public was last week, June 17, and my time for dressing/shopping/going out dressed is limited in descending order, so I answered “occasionally.” I’ve dressed fully w/make-up since 8 or 9 years old, but only bought and wore a complete outfit vs. lingerie two months ago. Just have finally felt driven to, and to go out–while still alive and active enough. It’s restrictive due to being 67, married, with a grown son at home. Because of circumstances I had to do make-up and change outerwear in my car, and turned out had no sweater top or wig along as I thought. But did have other tops and and my natural hair covers most of the ears and back collar so went again.
Absolutely loved it and wasn’t nervous. In San Francisco, I parked and stood in a view overlook on Twin Peaks where only folks in two passing tour buses and some cars could see me, then went down to Castro Street and walked around. Didn’t get any stares or remarks (there)! I’m not passable (much as I’d love to be) but don’t care. I’ve never been ashamed or embarrassed about this, or ever will be, but I don’t want to embarrass my soul mates.
Without limitations I think I’d dress much more, when possible I did most weekdays. Out in public–at least once, maybe twice a week.
Hello Donna,
Good for you and I admire your courage to do what you did. You and I are in similar boats as for adult children being around. I am out to my eldest son though and he think it’s way kewel, but he is gay. He told his friends about me too – a move I didn’t expect – and now they all want to meet me as my fem self and he’s all for it. Dang pity we do not live close to each other. I have helped some “girls” pass with makeup tips or something. At least we could have each other to confide in. Anyway, I understand exactly about all you said and wanted to let you at least know, you’re not alone my Sister. Good luck on future endeavors! Hugs,
Crystal
Crystal:
Thank you very much for your reply and kind and supportive words! I appreciate and enjoy them very much. Right back at ‘ya, as they used to say. I love your attitude toward this, and it’s reflected in your nice photo also.
I couldn’t agree more with the idea that this should be fun and we should enjoy it as much as we can. Good luck to you as well.
Hugs, Donna
I too only get to go out occasionally. But if it wasn’t for the support group that I joined about 3 1/2 years ago I would probably not even do that. I now go to the mall with my wife and CD friends that I have meet through the group. I have even gone and had my nails done and had makeup done at a Sephora’s in the mall at J C Penney’s. The group I belong to is Tri-Ess look it up to see if there is chapter in your vivacity you might have to drive a few hours but it is worth it. It changed my life. 🙂 Oh and by the way I will be 59 in July so you are never to old in fact we have a member that is 84.
Jessica