Do you feel like you don’t fit into traditional gender norms?
Whether you’re a crossdresser, a transgender woman, or someone who embraces a different gender identity, one thing is clear: society still has a lot to learn about gender non-conforming people.
Do you agree? If so, let’s talk about it!
What do you wish people understood about you?
Whether it’s the people closest to you or the world at large, what message would you like to share?
The more voices and perspectives out there, the more others will hopefully begin to understand.
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
There has and most likely be the stereotyping of male roles, female roles, masculinity, femininity, and to be curious about what it would be like to be the opposite, not permanently for a lot of us out there, but occasionally.
For me, I enjoy wearing the satiny, silky stuff and would like to one day go all out and get completely dolled up and go out for an evening. I do not, nor have I ever, nor will I ever desire sex with other men. I want to see if I can pass enough to get them looking, yes, but not anything physical.
I would say I am about 40% there. So, for me cross dressing is a way to satisfy some curiosities I will never fully understand, and is a way I can connect with my own children on a level most fathers never achieve. That is to say, shopping, and wardrobe. My 16 y.o. has borrowed some of my things, and I do not hide them nor am I embarrassed anymore by it.
Hope everyone of you has a wonderful New Year, and here is to a little more understanding, even if you still don’t approve or agree. Agree to not humiliate or degrade us. Thank you.
Hi Lucille
Happy Holidays to you and valerie this year was my first time in public after many years struggling with myself finally i have the courage to go out and face the world in the beginning i was very nervous but after a while i relax and start enjoy the experience thanks to your advice and products i gain confidence to go out and it feels like second nature to me and the woman who was hiding finally surface and now i going to enjoy been a woman and i going to start my full transition next year. Lucille many thanks for everything you do for the trangender community.
This is my picture in macys
Love joanna xoxo
P.S. happy holidays to all the girls
I love to know the opinion of the girls
There will be changes to our favior,most of all i am, just myself
Despite how we look or prefer, we all are humans with the same value, because the value of the being of a human is per se, not for the gender or the preference. We all have goals, dreams, emotions, feelings and much much more. Therefore, to achieve equality between everyone, we need to realise that we all are the same kind of being, human being.
Certainly Caitlyn Jenner’s very open and public transformation has helped in a very positive way – as she’s simply saying “Hey, I’m still me, I just want to express myself as a woman from now on”.
It doesn’t help that there are so many photos & videos on the web of TG women in very porn oriented ways that continue to support the wrong ideas that TG is all about sex. Many people have distorted images of TG women in the outdated ’70s 80’s stereotypes of transvestites strolling through Times Square, or more recently ’90s ’00s drag-queens in parades. I’m all for freedom of expression, don’t get me wrong, but what’s needed is more and more news stories, magazine articles, web images of TG women in very everyday, average places throughout society – working, enjoying walking & talking with friends, visiting over coffee, lunch, dinner with all kinds of friends, family, co-workers.
I absolutely LOVE to surprise new people I meet and shatter their negative images & stereotypes of a TG woman. When I was transitioning at work, it was obvious most people had a very weird-distorted expectation of what Cathy would look like, act like, be on her first day in the office. But thankfully, they were all diffused and pleasantly surprised to find a mid-40s woman at her desk wearing a black pencil skirt, ivory knit top, dark hose, black flats, purse, sweater, and “everyday” make-up, nails, jewelry, perfume . . . . suddenly the suspense was over, we all smiled, said hello, and got back to work as we always had for my 11+ years at the firm.
Not all were openly supportive, but I gave them no ammunition to support their misconceptions and stereotypes. Those folks tended to not see me/speak to me much before I transitioned, and the folks who were my closer friends, colleagues adjusted, we still went to lunch, talked, and got work done together. And it’s a nice place to be.
Cathy
Very well said Cathy. I think many people have the perception of what TG is, is clouded by the images of drag queens and comedians dressing up for their acts and such. Laughable maybe, but that is not what we are. We just want to fit into society and have society accept us.
Exactly! CD/TV was always something referred to as perverted, done in secret, and the person did not look convincing at all when dressed. On stage, television, in movies, it was always viewed as ‘deviant’ for a genetic man to want to express himself as feminine. And yet, for decades women have been cutting their hair short, wearing male-styled suits and ties, jeans and boots, T-shirts and flannel/work shirts, even taking jobs where the official uniform (for instance police, sheriff, private security) is pants, man’s shirt, black man’s shoes or boots, belt, tie, hair pulled back or cut short. But could a man take a job where the uniform is a skirt with flats or low heel, standard blouse and matching blazer? Of course not. So the gal is fine dressed as a man on the construction site (jeans, boots, t-shirt, work vest, hard hat), but the guy can’t be a cocktail waitress, airline stewardess, cosmetics salesperson, beautician and in each setting wearing the female uniform for that company or franchise.
I always roll my eyes when I’m at nice restaurant and a gal comes tony table dressed as a male waiter in black pants, white dress shirt, black bow tie, belt, hair short or pulled back. Could a male then present himself as a waitress in a black skirt, black hose, black flats, white fitted ‘blouse’, nice accent jewelry, hair up in a scrunchy/ponytail?
Now TG comes along as the contemporary term, but my MFT counselor still labeled my folder and 3+ years of private sessions “as gender identity disorder” and only in 2014 did she simple say counseling for “gender identity difference”.
It’s certainly better than the ’70s – 00s and now in the 20-teens it’s no longer a Maury Povich or Phil Donohue side show spectacle of “I just don’t get it”, but we still have a lot more to adjust in society to be accepted as completely normal women.
Hi ladies: What do I wish from people ? Not an easy question to answer, as a crossdresser i’m still set on one side of the fence, not necessarily by choice, I would love to be able to dress in something pretty and go, do something, take a walk, but todays attitudes, although changing have not gone far enough to ensure acceptance.People just don’t understand that what you are as a human being is unique. I think the girls who are out to the world are heroes for the rest of us,but the attitude of ” Me Tarzan you Jane ” still has to change a great deal before acceptance is complete.
That crossdresser’s are people too with hopes,
Dreams and feelings.. Real families and jobs and just want to be able to be ourselves without hate or persecution. I cannot recall any hate crimes against straight people simply because of who they are .
I would hope that others accept us as equals; understanding that we have a sincere desire to be true to ourselves like they do. BUT, which each of us has discovered, includes expressing our feminine side by the way we act, dress and feel with or without sex. The alternative for us is to keep it bound up inside which leads to unhappiness and depression. Put in another way – live and let live and treat others as you would like them to treat you.