A gorgeous pair of heels instantly makes you feel slimmer, sexier, and more feminine. The trick, of course, is walking in them!
Walking in heels is definitely a skill – and it’s something many crossdressers and transgender women tell me they struggle with.
Are you ready to perfect your sexy strut? The first step in mastering your heels training is to learn these 7 dos and don’ts when it comes to walking in high heels.
1. DO Walk Heel-To-Toe
When learning to walk in heels, a common beginner mistake is to place the entire foot down at once. Unfortunately, this can make it look like you are “clomping” rather than walking.
The proper technique is to walk in a heel-to-toe pattern, just like you do on flat feet. Place your heel down first, followed by your toe. This will make your walk look as smooth and natural as possible.
2. DO Take Smaller Steps
Wearing heels naturally shortens your stride. The higher the heel, the shorter your steps should be.
Don’t try to fight this! Instead, take shorter, more frequent steps as you walk.
3. DON’T Lean Forward Or Back
Heels change your balance, so you need to be careful not to lean forward or back when you walk. Your weight should stay centered and lifted.
Imagine you are a puppet with a string attached to the top of your head. Picture the string pulling you up as you walk, giving you a regal and ladylike air.
4. DO Place One Foot In Front Of The Other
Have you ever noticed that runway models look like they are walking on an invisible tightrope?
Placing one foot in front of the other as you walk makes your steps more feminine. It also gives your hips a sexy sway!
The trick is not to overdo it. You should also avoid the temptation to look down at your feet to be sure they are lining up.
Instead, focus on keeping your legs together. If you feel your thighs brushing together, your feet will naturally cross over just a little bit.
5. DON’T Go Too High
Not surprisingly, 5” stilettos are a lot harder to walk in than 3” pumps.
Start low and work your way up. A good place to begin is with a heel that is 2-3” tall. This will allow your ankles to develop the strength needed to support you.
Once you’ve mastered that, you can move on to the skyscraper stilettos you’ve been coveting.
To learn more about selecting your perfect heels, see this post on MTF Shoes: 7 Best Shoe Styles for Crossdressers and Transgender Women.
6. DO Relax Your Legs
Another common mistake is to tense your legs and lock your knees when you walk in heels. This can give you a stiff, robotic look.
Instead, keep your legs and hips relaxed. The knees should have a slight bend, which will help the hips sway.
7. DON’T Forget To Practice
The time to test your heel walking skills isn’t when you’re out and about. Be sure to spend a lot of time wearing them around the house before you make your big debut.
As you practice, be sure to cover all of the real-world skills you’ll need to master, including:
- Walking
- Turning around
- Standing
- Sitting down
- Getting into and out of a car
- Walking up and down stairs
Taking the next step
Finally, since walking in heels is one of those things you need to see to understand, here’s a great video tutorial that demonstrates the points above:
Do you love wearing heels? If so, I’d love to see you in action! Please upload a photo of you wearing your favorite high heels below!
Love,
Lucille
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Great advice, as ever. In case you are wondering, I can’t walk in those shoes in the photo, I can only wear them for 15 minutes or so before my calf muscles complain. I usually stick to no more that 2″ heels as I just find that’s the most comfortable height for me – I can even run in them if I need to ! For me, heels are an essential item for Diane as is walking like women do and the heel to toe is a must, as are shorter steps. Pencil skirts are great as they encourage shorter steps. As for the wiggle that also needs practice and “special” items really help .
I can understand my mother’s concern, because unless you were a fly on the wall my choice in footwear may seem a little obscure, since nowadays my family and friends have learned not to attract so much attention. When I was discussing which pair of highheels best suit my style, I was completely honest. I told both the sales man (yesterday), and the sales woman (some time ago), exactly what I’m interested in. I asked seperately for their honest opinions like it mattered, because it does, and in both cases they understood why I needed two pairs of shoes. We all agreed my choice may be unconventional, but we are living in modern times. Following that the discussion then became less about whether I’ll graze my knee along the yellow brick road, and more about how I will go about maintaining my balance on the catwalk. It was a considered and slightly complicated discussion, and a fair one if that, because I didn’t want the sales man or the sales woman to feel responsible if I fall. It’s why it pays, to be honest. Who wants a couple pairs of shoes when you can have the entire collection. It’s a concept both of them understood and felt comfortable with. I was also being considerate, because just like the sales woman, we both have age on our side, and Stuart Weitzman is the kindest, best, most generous and deserving designer of of them all. Deserving of my, attention, and our, loyalty. Nothing is for free in life, certainly not my shoes. So if the three of us are ever asked why I chose a pair of 2.5 inch heels when I could have gone higher, they’ll soon discover I was completely honest. It doesn’t make me feel free, since there is a reminicence of somebody else’s poor choices, but at least I understand the reasons for my decision, and I can live with that. I just need to remember that when I put on my flats, I walk differently to when I’m wearing my Mary Janes. Now nobody, not even my step father, can judge me for changing in to a pair of blue and red patent kitten heels 😉
awesome video will use more time look to video and then practice me
Hi
The guidance is so appropriate for me, as I have struggled in the past to walk in a ladylike manner, and not draw unwanted attention to myself.
From Richard
Walking in heels does take practice. But it’s such a wonderful feeling!
ive only two pair heels so far trying not walk like guy does n them and yes trying walk heel to toe an balance myself at sametime time including not to walk to fast some other’s you mentioned have not tried yet like getting in an out of vehicle not to much. going up n down steps or stairs also walking round outside my yard is uneven although will work on those when get chance to;
I do all 7 steps and have for many years. I learned walking in heels in my teens and by watching women walk in heels and perfected my walk by copying them.
I have been in a wheelchair since May 84, do you think I still need heels
Hi Kendra,
If you like the look of heels, I say go for it! It’s totally a personal choice. 🙂 Here’s a video with tips on how to wear heels in a wheelchair:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUf2xdYEfuM